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Go out for a delicious, fancy meal by yourself and feel content enough in your own company that you don't need some awkward date opposite you to feel good about yourself. Take a book, read magazines, drink all the wine if you want to, because you are an independent woman picking up the bill after herself.
Go on an all-girls holiday
It might feel like you're stretching your bank account beyond the end of the earth, but rounding up your girlfriends and jumping on a plane is something you're never going to look back on and regret. Sacrifice one pair of shoes and a night out a month in aid of a flight to somewhere sunny with the people you rate the most.
Appreciate your independence
We're not saying being single isn't lonely sometimes, but it gives you an opportunity to be free of A LOT of the baggage that comes with a relationship. Eventually you'll spend the majority of your life worrying about other people - albeit a boyfriend, children, husband and so on - so spend this time really appreciating your own time and space.
Be a YES person
If we haven't hammered it home enough, you're mature and independent and living an autonomous life, what's the harm in saying yes to things? YES to the guy from IT who keeping asking you on a date, YES to that weekend trip to Wales with your parents even though you don't really want to go and YES to that Krispy Kreme donut staring at you through the box.
Spend time with your family and friends
As your parents get older and your friends' lives get busier, make the effort to spend time with them and visit various places because you are in an easy position to do so. It's important to keep old ties, because those are the people that are always going to support you in the long run.
Cut the relationship clutter
If you're prone to feeling nostalgic about your college days and still keep pictures of your first boyfriend in a folder for "the memories", it might be time to cut the clutter and chuck out anything that might be holding you back. The relationship ended for a reason and the time to make way for the future over the past is now.
Ditch your emotional barriers
Lots of people find it hard to 'let their guard down' because of being hurt in the past, and while it's 1000% easier said than done, ditching your emotional barriers and opening yourself up to people again is LIBERATING. Yes giving someone a chance could end up in hurting you again, but it could also end in something wonderful.
Splash out on yourself
We've said it before and we'll say it again: it's not down to men to make you feel special, so don't rely on your relationship status to dictate your happiness. Treat yourself because YOU deserve it, not because you think it's what a boyfriend would be doing. Buy the handbag or the sandwich from Pret that costs approximately the same price as a mortgage if you feel like it, because you
Learn to cook
Don't learn for anyone else, learn for YOU. You'd be surprised how bloody satisfying it is to be able to whip up a full on delicious meal at the drop of a hat, and to know what's actually going into your food once in a while. Grab a Nigella Lawson (obviously) cook book, crack out the eggs and watch your cooking ability come to life - even if it is just an omelette with chocolate brownies to follow.
Go on an all-girls holiday
It might feel like you're stretching your bank account beyond the end of the earth, but rounding up your girlfriends and jumping on a plane is something you're never going to look back on and regret. Sacrifice one pair of shoes and a night out a month in aid of a flight to somewhere sunny with the people you rate the most.
Appreciate your independence
We're not saying being single isn't lonely sometimes, but it gives you an opportunity to be free of A LOT of the baggage that comes with a relationship. Eventually you'll spend the majority of your life worrying about other people - albeit a boyfriend, children, husband and so on - so spend this time really appreciating your own time and space.
Be a YES person
If we haven't hammered it home enough, you're mature and independent and living an autonomous life, what's the harm in saying yes to things? YES to the guy from IT who keeping asking you on a date, YES to that weekend trip to Wales with your parents even though you don't really want to go and YES to that Krispy Kreme donut staring at you through the box.
Spend time with your family and friends
As your parents get older and your friends' lives get busier, make the effort to spend time with them and visit various places because you are in an easy position to do so. It's important to keep old ties, because those are the people that are always going to support you in the long run.
Cut the relationship clutter
If you're prone to feeling nostalgic about your college days and still keep pictures of your first boyfriend in a folder for "the memories", it might be time to cut the clutter and chuck out anything that might be holding you back. The relationship ended for a reason and the time to make way for the future over the past is now.
Ditch your emotional barriers
Lots of people find it hard to 'let their guard down' because of being hurt in the past, and while it's 1000% easier said than done, ditching your emotional barriers and opening yourself up to people again is LIBERATING. Yes giving someone a chance could end up in hurting you again, but it could also end in something wonderful.
Splash out on yourself
We've said it before and we'll say it again: it's not down to men to make you feel special, so don't rely on your relationship status to dictate your happiness. Treat yourself because YOU deserve it, not because you think it's what a boyfriend would be doing. Buy the handbag or the sandwich from Pret that costs approximately the same price as a mortgage if you feel like it, because you
Learn to cook
Don't learn for anyone else, learn for YOU. You'd be surprised how bloody satisfying it is to be able to whip up a full on delicious meal at the drop of a hat, and to know what's actually going into your food once in a while. Grab a Nigella Lawson (obviously) cook book, crack out the eggs and watch your cooking ability come to life - even if it is just an omelette with chocolate brownies to follow.
