:bookworm:In your life, youâll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something.
Thereâs the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your ******ity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one youâre withâŚand the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess itâs that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didnât fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person.
I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing.
It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When youâre not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesnât matter who youâre with, it just doesnât work.
Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because youâre not ready and it shows.
Itâs not that you and the person youâre with are no good; itâs just that itâs not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day youâre ready. You really are. And when this happens youâll be ready to settle down with someone.
He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but itâll work because youâre ready.
Itâll work because itâs the right time and youâll make it work. And itâll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when youâre finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person.
Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and youâve become ready because the time has truly arrived.
And mind you, thereâs no telling when this day will come. Hopefully youâre single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesnât matter.
All you know is that youâve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
Youâll think about them because youâll wonder, âWhat if they were here today?â Youâll wonder, âWhat if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?â
Thatâs what the one that got away is. The biggest âWhat if?â youâll have in your life.
If youâre married, youâll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away.
Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.
But hopefully youâre mature enough to realize that youâre already with the one youâre with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it.
Sure, youâll think about him/her every so often, but itâs alright. Itâs never nice to live with a âmight have been,â but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one whoâs already married.
In which case itâs the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when youâre old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then itâs different.
What do you do if itâs not yet too late? SimpleâŚfind him, find her. Because the very existence of a âone that got awayâ means that youâll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesnât matter if youâve dropped in from out of nowhere. Youâd be surprised, you just might be âthe one that got awayâ as well for the person who is your âthe one that got away.â
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it wonât make a difference.
If the timing is finally right, itâll all just fall into place somehow and you know, Iâm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, âHey you, youâre the one that almost got away.â
Thereâs the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your ******ity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one youâre withâŚand the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess itâs that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong.
There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didnât fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person.
I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing.
It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When youâre not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesnât matter who youâre with, it just doesnât work.
Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because youâre not ready and it shows.
Itâs not that you and the person youâre with are no good; itâs just that itâs not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day youâre ready. You really are. And when this happens youâll be ready to settle down with someone.
He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but itâll work because youâre ready.
Itâll work because itâs the right time and youâll make it work. And itâll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when youâre finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person.
Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and youâve become ready because the time has truly arrived.
And mind you, thereâs no telling when this day will come. Hopefully youâre single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesnât matter.
All you know is that youâve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
Youâll think about them because youâll wonder, âWhat if they were here today?â Youâll wonder, âWhat if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?â
Thatâs what the one that got away is. The biggest âWhat if?â youâll have in your life.
If youâre married, youâll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away.
Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.
But hopefully youâre mature enough to realize that youâre already with the one youâre with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it.
Sure, youâll think about him/her every so often, but itâs alright. Itâs never nice to live with a âmight have been,â but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one whoâs already married.
In which case itâs the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when youâre old and gray and reminiscing.
But if neither of that is the case, then itâs different.
What do you do if itâs not yet too late? SimpleâŚfind him, find her. Because the very existence of a âone that got awayâ means that youâll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesnât matter if youâve dropped in from out of nowhere. Youâd be surprised, you just might be âthe one that got awayâ as well for the person who is your âthe one that got away.â
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it wonât make a difference.
If the timing is finally right, itâll all just fall into place somehow and you know, Iâm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, âHey you, youâre the one that almost got away.â