💕 Dating/Love A Couple Doesn't Have to Split Everything Exactly 50/50 to Feel Fair

[Beatriz9]

Fairness in relationships isn't necessarily mathematical equality.

Research on equity distinguishes between receiving identical outcomes and feeling that each person's contributions and benefits are reasonably fair.

Two partners can contribute in very different ways.

One might handle more cooking while the other manages errands; one may provide more practical support while the other contributes differently.

Problems can arise when someone consistently feels underbenefited or that the arrangement is unfair.

That means “50/50” isn't always the best description of a balanced relationship.

What matters psychologically can be whether both people believe the exchange respects their efforts and needs.

Fair doesn't always mean identical.

© Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

 

[Asherah Goddess]

As long as same mindset at same mentality. Mararamdaman lang ng isang lalake or isang babae na "underbenefited" or feeling "unjustice" ang labas kapag ang partner niya is hindi nito ka-equal ng mindset at mentality.

Halimbawa. Babae, modern, gusto niya 50/50 pagkatapos, ang lalake na nakatapat ay traditionally, gusto nito bilang lalake na siya ang lahat magproprovide. 100% sa kanya lahat ang pera, hindi sila magkakasundo or reverse, babae na traditionally na gusto nito na lahat ng pera ay sa lalake while ang lalake, ang gusto ay 50/50, well, mismatch silang dalawa.

Equality, it doesn't mean na same tools na eksakto but, tama nga naman, kung ano ang beneficial at advantageous sa tao and meron siya freedom to choose, kung ano gusto ng lalake at babae mismo.

Iyon ang alam ko na equality and/or equity.

Ang babae at lalake ay kapag absolutely agree ang dalawa sa 50/50 ~ it means, both ay nakaka-benefit at advantageous ang bawat isa. Ang babae din kasi, in her own terms, nakaka-benefit siya sa pagiging independent niya na not relying too much sa pera ng lalake at iyon ang respect na nakukuha niya from a guy. Kung baga, vinavalue ng lalake ang pagiging independent ng babae & same din sa lalake, nakaka-benefit siya sa babae dahil alam ng lalake na marunong din magbigay halaga kung ano ang gusto niya at needs niya as a guy.

Hindi lang nagiging balance ang 50/50 pagdating sa relationship kung magkaiba talaga ang dalawa pagdating sa mindset at mentality mismo. Hindi siya balance. Magiging balance lang siya kapag same mag-isip at magkasundo. Kung baga, both agree kung kaya, walang problema.​