💕 Dating/Love Guy I met sa online dating app

[Axlr]

30f single at bago lang sa talking stage. He is consistent and and shows interest thou we never met yet. We do videocalling and really getting to know each other so he followed me in one of the media platforms I have. Then I saw he likes so many posts of barely ***** girls. Then whenever po nag mag popost siya lagi niya sinasabi sa akin na "I-like mo naman" or pusuan mo naman" and I was like "ha? bakit kailangan mo kong utusan" hehe
Is this a red flag po ba? We've been talking for 1 week already.

 

[jayyaj215]

Medyo alanganin yan madam

 

[PHC-kT]

red flag na agad haha

 

[C E S S]

He’s insecure and immature, acting like a kid who’s addicted to social media validation.
Wala ba syang buhay outside?
Kasi, a real man doesn’t need to fish for compliments like that. And if he’s that too focused on social media approval, what does that say about his confidence in real life?

 

[LinkMe]

Red Flag.

At possible immature/bata pa to

 

[MSol2021]

Parang may konting possessiveness or manipulation yung guy. Hmmm...For me, mag-ingat lang po kayo. Mas okay na hindi magpapa-pressure at kung may mga behavior na nakakaramdam ka ng discomfort, it's always okay to speak up or rethink things. One week pa lang naman, so wala pa sa level na kailangan mong isugal yung peace of mind mo.

 

[realkill14]

big red flag daw

 

[HowSoonIsNow]

bakla yan for sure

 

[shaqfu]

Delikado ka jan sa akin ka nalangjoke

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Hindi naman red flag yan. Single naman sya, at possibleng active lang sya sa social media.

On the other hand, turn off yan diba?

So tutal nasa talking stage kayo, ito ung time nani E×ρréšš no sakanya na natuturnoff ka jan sa mga bagay n yan. Be genuine to him.

Then, it will be his move to show kung kaya nya yan baguhin. Kung maging kayo man, there will be conflicts about this issue, but conflicts are normal kahit sino pa yan. Nasa capacity mo yan.

 

[trigunther]

balance eh may positive sa kanya meron at meron din negative you can't expect him to be perfect.. pero good thing is may communication kayo.. maybe talk about it and see how things goes..eto yung time na kikilalanin mo sya ng lubusan and i all out mo na agad yung mga gusto at hindi mo gusto pero know this you can't control the person sa anong gusto at hindi nya gustong gawin .

 

[Click250]

Red flag. Narcissist type

 

[acer005]

Kung one week pa lang kayo nag-uusap at napapansin mong lagi siyang may hinihinging validation, tapos like ng like sa posts ng halos hùbád na girls—red flag potential 'yan. Hindi agad dealbreaker, pero observe mo. Kung may discomfort ka, wag balewalain.

 

[ImNewBie]

attention seeker yan boss, buti hindi pa naging kayo kasi di yan mag seseryoso. ganyan ex gf ko hilig mag pa like minsan mag papa share pa hahaha.

 

[reyman19]

naku red flag na yan TS

 

[10reason]

Demanding naman yung guy, uutusan ka pang mag like o mag react hindi niya dapat sinasabi sayo yan kahit nasa talking stage pa kayo, kung talagang gusto ka niya hindi ganyan ipapakita niya sayo, halatang pa fame***re yung guy.

 

[nitro7]

Hindi naman red flag yan. Single naman sya, at possibleng active lang sya sa social media.

On the other hand, turn off yan diba?

So tutal nasa talking stage kayo, ito ung time nani E×ρréšš no sakanya na natuturnoff ka jan sa mga bagay n yan. Be genuine to him.

Then, it will be his move to show kung kaya nya yan baguhin. Kung maging kayo man, there will be conflicts about this issue, but conflicts are normal kahit sino pa yan. Nasa capacity mo yan.

agree ako sa assessment na ito. pero sa akin lang... kung meron kang di nagustuhan sa kanya, why bother trying to change him? kadalasan 'yang change na 'yan, if ever man, ay na-rerever kung ito ang natural para sa kanya.

dito pa lang sa phc andami nang desperate / hindi maka-move on na guys, eh. hehehe i'm sure meron pang iba.

 

[-Reen-]

Direct to the point kaagad sabihin mo ayaw mo ng ganon pero yung malumanay lang, para aware din sya na di mo pala gusto yung mga ganyang bagay at malay mo baka din kasi nag lalambing lang na ilike mo post nya..

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

agree ako sa assessment na ito. pero sa akin lang... kung meron kang di nagustuhan sa kanya, why bother trying to change him? kadalasan 'yang change na 'yan, if ever man, ay na-rerever kung ito ang natural para sa kanya.

dito pa lang sa phc andami nang desperate / hindi maka-move on na guys, eh. hehehe i'm sure meron pang iba.

It is about recognizing each others growth potential. Ang relasyon naman ay parang negotiation yan. Wala nmn iisang tao na swak agad sa standards natin at sure na may mga babaguhin kayo sa isa't isa. Para din kasi sinabi mong "bakit kailangan magtanim sa paso kung mamamatay din naman ang tanim"

Yes potentially mareverse mo kung magbago man. Equally potential din permanent. Like I said base yan sa capacity ng bawat isa taking risks to wait for the reward of nurturing something. It is only desperate kung nagrereklamo ka knowing it is beyond your capacity in the first place.

 

[nitro7]

Para din kasi sinabi mong "bakit kailangan magtanim sa paso kung mamamatay din naman ang tanim"

this is completely different. ang responsibilidad sa itinanim mo sa paso, ay sa iyo at iyo lamang.hindi ka pipilitin nito na diligan mo s'ya araw-araw. lalong hindi biglang nagdedesisyon 'yung halaman na ayaw na n'ya sa iyo.

when you get to a certain age, you will see far more couples that started out with what everyone thought was a "perfect relationship" not working out.

however, people should make the best decisions they can at specific points in their lives. so it doesn't mean not trying. just that there's a tremendous level of risk attached to expecting people to change. for example, 'yung gwapong tamad (o maganda), kung aasahan mong magsusumikap pag naging kayo na... ang pusta ko ay sa hindi.