🕯️ Traditions If you feel good being alone, congratulations, you understood life."

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If you feel good being alone, congratulations, you understood life."
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I was alone all the time, but not lonely. pero pa minsan minsan may sumusulpot na "parang mas maganda if may kasama" specially if maganda yung place, hahaha
 
Natural para sakin ung feeling na ito. Pero tingin ko to say that is me understanding life is to romanticize my comfort zone - then somehow believing I have the moral high ground.

Hindi aa mali, pero tingin ko depende padin sa context.
 
Yun nga din naisip ko. Pero kung sa introvert, id they learn to enjoy social gathering, jan mo masabi they understood life. So ung title ng thread only applies to extrovert.
di naman din meaning na kapag introvert ka ay wala ka na talagang social skills, intrapersonal intelligence (self smart) and interpersonal intelligence (social smart) still co-exist only that minsan sa isang tao mas dominant or mas noticeable ang isang intelligence niya compared sa ibang intelligences niya, talking about understanding life, merong naka assign na intelligence para diyan and that is "existential intelligence" and again multiple intelligences are present in every person, it's just that mas dominant/noticeable yung iba from the rest
 
Ako. I choose to be alone but, not lonely. I understood life na po kasi eh. The life na ikinamulatan ko is a man's world po eh. In order to be normal sa mga nakakakita sa akin, I need to embrace their masculine moral values and their masculine moral authority and kinakailangan ko rin na to be behave as a woman of what is their social expectation on how women should behave po.

Alam niyo ba ang feeling na hindi ako malaya, hindi ako satisfied at hindi ako masaya dahil if I choose to have connections and make friends either companionship lang or ano... mag-iingat ako kung papaano ako magbehave para masabi lang sa akin na I am one of them, I am normal and I am not weird and I am belong to a million filipinos who lived here in the Philippines.

Mahirap. So instead of magsuffer ako sa ganun klaseng kalagayan ko, I choose to be alone. Mas masaya pa ako. Hindi ako lonely. Bagkus medio free ako on how would I want to act, how would I behave~ talaga hindi siya nag coconform sa ini expected ng iba. Siyempre, mag-isa eh 😁 Hindi ako nakatali sa opinion and expectation ng ibang tao dahil ang nakakakilala lang ay ako.

Kasi, if nagpakatotoo ako, katulad dito if ever, meron negative impression na sila niyan sa akin kaya in offline, I choose to be alone.

...but case to case basis po. If same kami ng perspective on how we view the world po, sa culture and sa society po only then na I will not be alone here in this world po. I promise and a promise, if there is a special connection between us , either a male or female, I will value them and stay with them hanggang sa dulo na walang hanggan but of course, there is a saying din na " a promise meant to be broken " daw. Case to case basis pa rin ☺️
 
i just wonder if kung anu ang criteria para masabi na life is understood, kasi sa observation ko iba iba ang description ng life na gusto natin, sa lifestyle pa lang nagkaka-iba na tayo​

Ah. Iba kasi ang akin. Subjective lang ata kasi siya. Ang akin kasi, iba. Noon bata ako, iba ipinacultivate sa akin. Kawawa at lugi ang babae, babae daw ay meron palantandaan kuno or marking if vlrgin.......... ang dami ipinabuklat sa akin. Andoon pa na malakas si lalake at mahina si babae ni hindi nga ipinamulat sa akin na meron strength ang babae po. Ipinamulat lang sa akin na lalake ang meron strength po.

Siguro naman, hindi lang ako ipinamulat na ganito. Marami kami. Andoon pa na kasalanan ng babae na bakit na rir@pe at nabab@stos daw........ basta! Iba! ~ Hindi ko nga alam na the reason na ito pala ang how the world works at ganito pala how life should be na lingid sa kaalaman ko, kaya pala ganito, inosente ako na we lived in patriarchal culture pala kung saan associated siya sa masculine moral value and authority at iyon ang normal na itinatangkilik ng mga tao.

Andoon pumasok sa utak ko na ganyan pala how life should be and I understand na kapag hindi tayo magpasakop sa ethics & morality which is masculine, ako ang mabubully, ako ang weird, ako ang abnormal or quite na negative sa kanila.

Iba ang akin. I understood life na ganun pala iyon so in order to survive, it is better to be alone and choose to be happy. Ang cons lang kasi, if I choose to be on my own and then, babae ako, sabay labas ng bahay with matching mini skirt, beautiful flaw skin, with beautiful straight hair, with perfect figure with matching cleavage na meron ako na para akong Goddess of the Goddesses - naks!!! ~you know, baka patayin ako, ma r@pe ako at ako ang may kasalanan ng lahat-lahat dahil I unleash the power of a femininity - oha? So andoon na lang tayo magconform sa pantalon at hijab if Islam to appreciate their morality.

Well, iyon ang akin. Subjective lang siya pero iyan ang na understood ko na what life is all about. The life we need to survive especially if iba ang environment.

So yeah, we can be alone and to be happy but not so absolutely perfect, dahil when it comes to environment, mag-iingat pa rin like how we dress up, how we behave sa kapwa tao, yeah, cautious tayo dahil iba nga ang morality nila eh. So yeah, better na mag isa na lang and try to be independent kung kaya.

Another thing, to survive, for me, ewan ko sa iba kung ano choice nila, well, tinuturn off ko ang lahat ng notification on social media na meron kilalaman sa masculinity dahil ayoko ma influence nila ako kahit kagaano pa iyan kalakas as in. Kailangan eh.

Malalaman naman ang topic. Andoon ang vlrginity, leftover for leftover, polygamous in Islam, men's nature, kawawa at lugi si woman topic like meron ako nakita na interview na lalake..... dami. Ganun lang iyon. Dami.​
 

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