💕 Dating/Love Need advice in my hard relationship

[agentZero_007]

First of all, salamat sa pag-share ng kwento mo nang buong-buo. Mukhang binigay mo talaga lahat para sa relationship niyo, pero sa kabila ng lahat, marami pa ring unresolved issues na nag-cause ng doubts at insecurities sa'yo.

Here are some insights and possible actions you could consider:
1. Evaluate Mutual Respect and Trust: Sa relationship, mahalaga ang respeto at tiwala. Mahirap magpatuloy kung lagi mong pinagdududahan ang partner mo. Yung trust issues ninyo, sa tingin ko, hindi lang dahil sa mga ginawa niya kundi dahil sa repeated patterns na hindi niya ina-address. Lahat ng nagiging conflict ninyo ay parang nagiging paulit-ulit, na parang hindi na siya natututo.
2. Set Clear Boundaries and Communication: Based on your story, mukhang nagkulang din kayo sa clear communication ng boundaries at expectations. Baka it’s time na mag-usap kayo nang masinsinan tungkol sa values and priorities niyo as a couple—kung ano talaga yung gusto niyo ma-achieve sa relationship na ito.
3. Assess Your Own Happiness and Well-being: Tanungin mo ang sarili mo kung ano bang nararamdaman mo with her ngayon. If mas madalas ka nang nasasaktan kaysa napapasaya, it might be a sign na kailangan mo mag-decide na para sa sarili mo. A healthy relationship dapat nagbibigay ng peace and contentment, hindi laging nagdadala ng stress at pagdududa.
4. Be Realistic About Her Commitment and Growth: Sa dami ng pagkakataon na binigyan mo siya ng chance, mukhang hindi pa rin siya nagbibigay ng assurance na kaya niyang baguhin ang nakasanayan niya. Hindi naman imposible na magbago ang isang tao, pero kailangan sincere at committed din siya sa pagbabago para gumana ang relasyon.
5. Think About Your Future and Values: Kung iniisip mo ang long-term na commitment tulad ng kasal, itanong mo rin sa sarili mo kung kaya mo bang magtiwala ulit nang buo. Mahalaga sa isang relasyon ang shared values. Kung feeling mo lagi siyang magsisinungaling o hindi siya magiging open, baka kailangan mong mag-step back at mag-isip kung ito ba talaga ang partner na gusto mo for the future.

Ultimately, mahalaga dito ang self-respect mo. Kung paulit-ulit kang nasasaktan, baka it's time to consider leaving for your own well-being. Make sure na yung magiging desisyon mo ay para sa sarili mong kapakanan at peace of mind, hindi lang dahil sa attachment or sa takot na mawala siya.

thanks for sharing paps. I appreciated it.

 

[El Patron del Mal]

iwanan mo na yan TS ganyan na ganyan yung ex ko sobrang sakit sa ulo ganyang klaseng babae..kaya mas pinili ko nalang muna maging single sa ngayon nakafocus sa grind..7 years din kami nong ex ko at ilang taon din ako nagtiis at nastress..pero nong hindi ko na talaga kayang mag tiis iniwanan ko na wala ng balikan..simula naghiwalay kami hanggang ngayon tumatawag parin siya sakin pero di ko na kinakausap..ayuko na bumalik sa magulong relasyon at sakit ng ulo wala pang peace of mind..mas naging masaya buhay ko nong inalis ko yung ex ko sa buhay ko..sa umpisa lang yan na parang hindi mo siya kayang bitawan..

 

[agentZero_007]

iwanan mo na yan TS ganyan na ganyan yung ex ko sobrang sakit sa ulo ganyang klaseng babae..kaya mas pinili ko nalang muna maging single sa ngayon nakafocus sa grind..7 years din kami nong ex ko at ilang taon din ako nagtiis at nastress..pero nong hindi ko na talaga kayang mag tiis iniwanan ko na wala ng balikan..simula naghiwalay kami hanggang ngayon tumatawag parin siya sakin pero di ko na kinakausap..ayuko na bumalik sa magulong relasyon at sakit ng ulo wala pang peace of mind..mas naging masaya buhay ko nong inalis ko yung ex ko sa buhay ko..sa umpisa lang yan na parang hindi mo siya kayang bitawan..

salamat sa advice paps. .. sorry about sa past relationship mo.. obsessed na talaga makamtan ang peace of mind.

 

[trigunther]

hirap sa jowa mo mapag patol kahit sa chat kung sincere sya sa iyo hindi na mag eentertain yan ng iba pero tingin ko nakasanayan na nyan na maging ganyan sya wag ka na mag paka ***** pa hayaan mo nang naloko ka ng ilang beses pero kung ipag papatuloy mo yan ikaw din mag sisi sa huli

 

[agentZero_007]

hirap sa jowa mo mapag patol kahit sa chat kung sincere sya sa iyo hindi na mag eentertain yan ng iba pero tingin ko nakasanayan na nyan na maging ganyan sya wag ka na mag paka ***** pa hayaan mo nang naloko ka ng ilang beses pero kung ipag papatuloy mo yan ikaw din mag sisi sa huli

salamat sa comment paps. hirap talaga.

 

[El Patron del Mal]

salamat sa comment paps. hirap talaga.

kaya mo yan ts.

 

[agentZero_007]

kaya mo yan ts.

thank you po.. kinakaya ko na..

 

[dbels]

Kayamo yan. You can't control other people. You can only control your emotions. Never chase girls. Chase your dreams. Have self-respect.

 

[jace29]

Hard PASS kana jan TS bata ka pa... talo ka talaga jan pag nag away kayo mas matanda siya.... tapos mukhang mas mahal mo siya kesa mas mahal ka nya....

Madami ka pa makikilalang babae mas madami ang babae ngayon kesa lalake... kaya mas indemand na ang lalake...

 

[agentZero_007]

Kayamo yan. You can't control other people. You can only control your emotions. Never chase girls. Chase your dreams. Have self-respect.

maraming salamat paps..

Hard PASS kana jan TS bata ka pa... talo ka talaga jan pag nag away kayo mas matanda siya.... tapos mukhang mas mahal mo siya kesa mas mahal ka nya....

Madami ka pa makikilalang babae mas madami ang babae ngayon kesa lalake... kaya mas indemand na ang lalake...

true po. ander niya ako palagi. kakalungkot. totoo po lahat ng sinabi niyo. maraming salamat paps.

 

[Xian420]

Thanks Ts i feel you although i am already ahead of you almost 2 decades, since now lang ulit ako nakabalik sa phcorner due to so many circumstances to fix.
bilang kapwa lalaki at sabihin natin payong nakatatandang kapatid.
a Man is not made by God of full of emotions. Sorry to share but I do hope understand I am not a religious man but Hopefully magets mo point ko.
Reality check, woman are design by God to be partners not walker not housemaid. Partners means katuwang katabi mo hindi sa harap mo hindi sa likod mo. There are a lot of misconception of the identity of a woman. woman have a lot of chemical changes meaning nagbabago hindi stable. kaya kailangan nila ang man
in your current situation bro, I don't want to mingle in your life but I want you to get this teachings. a life of a man without Jesus Christ in his walk in life will be easily manipulated controlled by his fleshly desires. what i mean by that.
yun hinahanap natin mga lalaki na "RESPECT" is earn right? but how do we show that?
first learn to respect your decision and bago ka humantong sa relsayon have a future thinking kung magiging karelasyon ko ang babaeng ito ano magiging future ko. Got it?
in your case bro 2 lang una kung mahal mo yun babae and you think na okey lang lokohin ka at ituloy mo lang yun relasyon nyo well its like you are hitting your head with stone without realizing it. I know it hurts but thats the truth. i am not teaching you to be harsh to the girl. its the truth, pinili niya iyan situation kaya you can not control a girl bro.

2nd option let go of her. focus on yourself first focus on what you want to be. set aside mo muna emotions mo kasi hindi mo makita purpose mo kung puro senti. Hindi tayo design ng Panginoon Hesus na maging senti. We are made to take control of what is being given to us. Be responsible to our thoughts and i understand the urge of longing a partner. pero bro burden iyan kapag wala ka pang naachieve sa buhay. Like magkaroon ng magandang trabaho maayos na tahanan nakakapagprovide sa family mo. I know it hurts in your part kasi attach ka na sa babae. and its dangerous why, masisira ang vision mo sa buhay. soulties na kasi iyan at hindi iyan will ng Lord. ang gusto ng Diyos sa ating mga lalaki maging matatag at maging matibay sa "self-control" pagdating sa *** urges. let go have life muna focus ka muna sa sarili mo find what makes you strive for your goals like having a business. build your empire bro. and kapag nareach mo iyan. woman will come automatic. may kasabihan "we attract we don't chase" so bro stop chasing woman okey bitawan mo na iyan kahit masakit
ikaw rin balang araw it will give you a lot of resentments.
pasensiya na napahaba just wanna help you. this is not about religion bro. Jesus Christ will help you its all about relationship kapag hindi mo sinama si Hesus sa buhay mo. madali ka masway ng emotions.

hopefully this helps God bless bro

 

[El Patron del Mal]

Thanks Ts i feel you although i am already ahead of you almost 2 decades, since now lang ulit ako nakabalik sa phcorner due to so many circumstances to fix.
bilang kapwa lalaki at sabihin natin payong nakatatandang kapatid.
a Man is not made by God of full of emotions. Sorry to share but I do hope understand I am not a religious man but Hopefully magets mo point ko.
Reality check, woman are design by God to be partners not walker not housemaid. Partners means katuwang katabi mo hindi sa harap mo hindi sa likod mo. There are a lot of misconception of the identity of a woman. woman have a lot of chemical changes meaning nagbabago hindi stable. kaya kailangan nila ang man
in your current situation bro, I don't want to mingle in your life but I want you to get this teachings. a life of a man without Jesus Christ in his walk in life will be easily manipulated controlled by his fleshly desires. what i mean by that.
yun hinahanap natin mga lalaki na "RESPECT" is earn right? but how do we show that?
first learn to respect your decision and bago ka humantong sa relsayon have a future thinking kung magiging karelasyon ko ang babaeng ito ano magiging future ko. Got it?
in your case bro 2 lang una kung mahal mo yun babae and you think na okey lang lokohin ka at ituloy mo lang yun relasyon nyo well its like you are hitting your head with stone without realizing it. I know it hurts but thats the truth. i am not teaching you to be harsh to the girl. its the truth, pinili niya iyan situation kaya you can not control a girl bro.

2nd option let go of her. focus on yourself first focus on what you want to be. set aside mo muna emotions mo kasi hindi mo makita purpose mo kung puro senti. Hindi tayo design ng Panginoon Hesus na maging senti. We are made to take control of what is being given to us. Be responsible to our thoughts and i understand the urge of longing a partner. pero bro burden iyan kapag wala ka pang naachieve sa buhay. Like magkaroon ng magandang trabaho maayos na tahanan nakakapagprovide sa family mo. I know it hurts in your part kasi attach ka na sa babae. and its dangerous why, masisira ang vision mo sa buhay. soulties na kasi iyan at hindi iyan will ng Lord. ang gusto ng Diyos sa ating mga lalaki maging matatag at maging matibay sa "self-control" pagdating sa *** urges. let go have life muna focus ka muna sa sarili mo find what makes you strive for your goals like having a business. build your empire bro. and kapag nareach mo iyan. woman will come automatic. may kasabihan "we attract we don't chase" so bro stop chasing woman okey bitawan mo na iyan kahit masakit
ikaw rin balang araw it will give you a lot of resentments.
pasensiya na napahaba just wanna help you. this is not about religion bro. Jesus Christ will help you its all about relationship kapag hindi mo sinama si Hesus sa buhay mo. madali ka masway ng emotions.

hopefully this helps God bless bro

solid to sana ok na si TS..

 

[C E S S]

Getting in a relationship with a walker is like playing with fire. Wala kang makukuha dyan kundi constant anxiety, gaslight cycle will continue. Attention, time, katawan lahat may presyo. Kaya kahit may relasyon kayo, instinct niyan bumalik sa pattern pag gipit.

 

[agentZero_007]

Thanks Ts i feel you although i am already ahead of you almost 2 decades, since now lang ulit ako nakabalik sa phcorner due to so many circumstances to fix.
bilang kapwa lalaki at sabihin natin payong nakatatandang kapatid.
a Man is not made by God of full of emotions. Sorry to share but I do hope understand I am not a religious man but Hopefully magets mo point ko.
Reality check, woman are design by God to be partners not walker not housemaid. Partners means katuwang katabi mo hindi sa harap mo hindi sa likod mo. There are a lot of misconception of the identity of a woman. woman have a lot of chemical changes meaning nagbabago hindi stable. kaya kailangan nila ang man
in your current situation bro, I don't want to mingle in your life but I want you to get this teachings. a life of a man without Jesus Christ in his walk in life will be easily manipulated controlled by his fleshly desires. what i mean by that.
yun hinahanap natin mga lalaki na "RESPECT" is earn right? but how do we show that?
first learn to respect your decision and bago ka humantong sa relsayon have a future thinking kung magiging karelasyon ko ang babaeng ito ano magiging future ko. Got it?
in your case bro 2 lang una kung mahal mo yun babae and you think na okey lang lokohin ka at ituloy mo lang yun relasyon nyo well its like you are hitting your head with stone without realizing it. I know it hurts but thats the truth. i am not teaching you to be harsh to the girl. its the truth, pinili niya iyan situation kaya you can not control a girl bro.

2nd option let go of her. focus on yourself first focus on what you want to be. set aside mo muna emotions mo kasi hindi mo makita purpose mo kung puro senti. Hindi tayo design ng Panginoon Hesus na maging senti. We are made to take control of what is being given to us. Be responsible to our thoughts and i understand the urge of longing a partner. pero bro burden iyan kapag wala ka pang naachieve sa buhay. Like magkaroon ng magandang trabaho maayos na tahanan nakakapagprovide sa family mo. I know it hurts in your part kasi attach ka na sa babae. and its dangerous why, masisira ang vision mo sa buhay. soulties na kasi iyan at hindi iyan will ng Lord. ang gusto ng Diyos sa ating mga lalaki maging matatag at maging matibay sa "self-control" pagdating sa *** urges. let go have life muna focus ka muna sa sarili mo find what makes you strive for your goals like having a business. build your empire bro. and kapag nareach mo iyan. woman will come automatic. may kasabihan "we attract we don't chase" so bro stop chasing woman okey bitawan mo na iyan kahit masakit
ikaw rin balang araw it will give you a lot of resentments.
pasensiya na napahaba just wanna help you. this is not about religion bro. Jesus Christ will help you its all about relationship kapag hindi mo sinama si Hesus sa buhay mo. madali ka masway ng emotions.

hopefully this helps God bless bro

Thanks Ts i feel you although i am already ahead of you almost 2 decades, since now lang ulit ako nakabalik sa phcorner due to so many circumstances to fix.
bilang kapwa lalaki at sabihin natin payong nakatatandang kapatid.
a Man is not made by God of full of emotions. Sorry to share but I do hope understand I am not a religious man but Hopefully magets mo point ko.
Reality check, woman are design by God to be partners not walker not housemaid. Partners means katuwang katabi mo hindi sa harap mo hindi sa likod mo. There are a lot of misconception of the identity of a woman. woman have a lot of chemical changes meaning nagbabago hindi stable. kaya kailangan nila ang man
in your current situation bro, I don't want to mingle in your life but I want you to get this teachings. a life of a man without Jesus Christ in his walk in life will be easily manipulated controlled by his fleshly desires. what i mean by that.
yun hinahanap natin mga lalaki na "RESPECT" is earn right? but how do we show that?
first learn to respect your decision and bago ka humantong sa relsayon have a future thinking kung magiging karelasyon ko ang babaeng ito ano magiging future ko. Got it?
in your case bro 2 lang una kung mahal mo yun babae and you think na okey lang lokohin ka at ituloy mo lang yun relasyon nyo well its like you are hitting your head with stone without realizing it. I know it hurts but thats the truth. i am not teaching you to be harsh to the girl. its the truth, pinili niya iyan situation kaya you can not control a girl bro.

2nd option let go of her. focus on yourself first focus on what you want to be. set aside mo muna emotions mo kasi hindi mo makita purpose mo kung puro senti. Hindi tayo design ng Panginoon Hesus na maging senti. We are made to take control of what is being given to us. Be responsible to our thoughts and i understand the urge of longing a partner. pero bro burden iyan kapag wala ka pang naachieve sa buhay. Like magkaroon ng magandang trabaho maayos na tahanan nakakapagprovide sa family mo. I know it hurts in your part kasi attach ka na sa babae. and its dangerous why, masisira ang vision mo sa buhay. soulties na kasi iyan at hindi iyan will ng Lord. ang gusto ng Diyos sa ating mga lalaki maging matatag at maging matibay sa "self-control" pagdating sa *** urges. let go have life muna focus ka muna sa sarili mo find what makes you strive for your goals like having a business. build your empire bro. and kapag nareach mo iyan. woman will come automatic. may kasabihan "we attract we don't chase" so bro stop chasing woman okey bitawan mo na iyan kahit masakit
ikaw rin balang araw it will give you a lot of resentments.
pasensiya na napahaba just wanna help you. this is not about religion bro. Jesus Christ will help you its all about relationship kapag hindi mo sinama si Hesus sa buhay mo. madali ka masway ng emotions.

hopefully this helps God bless bro

Bro. welcome back to PHC.

Maraming maraming maraming salamat sa advice. Honestly, it makes me cry while reading your words.
I fully understood your idea. If how to be a real men. Losing contact with Jesus Christ will make you weak and easily be manipulated which is true.
Kung maari lang dito ko i-share about her kahit last na.
I know there's something fishy about her. Because sabi niya magkapangalan at magka birtday daw sila ng babae niyang kapatid.
I don't believe that, until pinilit ko siya paaminin. Tapos yun nga, tama ang hinala ko. Yung ginagamit niyang pangalan noon pa is yung sa kapatid niya, also meron siya pinakita sa akin na Company/Government ID's na sa kapatid niya nakapangalan, pero sa kanyang mukha, sabi niya sa akin ang purpose lang daw nun is for employment. So pinaniwala niya ako na 35 yrs old na siya at yung kapatid niyang babae is 27 or 28. Deep inside it hurt me so much, di ko na lang sa kanya pinahalata.

Months later, I still being curious about sa hitsura nung kapatid niyang babae na kinukwento sa akin na namatay. Search ako ng search sa FB. Until, nahanap ko, mukha ng GF ko.
We talked about this personally and I forced her to admit that it was her. Then she lied, it his her identical twin daw. I don't believe it, then I cried in front of her. She finally admitted it, siguro na konsensya siya, pinakita niya yung ibang Government ID's, ayun. Yung kinukwento niyang kapatid niyang babae na namatay is siya rin naman pala. Dun ko nakita na 41 years old na pala siya. Yung kapatid niya is yung totoong 35. It's painful na lokohin ng ganyan kahit sineseryoso mo yung tao. Then inamin pa niya sa akin about dun sa pamangkin niyang babae na 5 years old is, pangalawang anak niya pala dun sa ex niya. Isa pang masakit, hindi to alam ng magulang ko, I feel guilty kasi it's like lying to them hanggat di ko sa kanila inaamin yung tungkol dito.

Sa totoo lang di na naman masakit kung iwan ko siya, ang importante natuto na ako. haha

That's all bro, maraming salamat uli.

 

[Xian420]

Bro. welcome back to PHC.

Maraming maraming maraming salamat sa advice. Honestly, it makes me cry while reading your words.
I fully understood your idea. If how to be a real men. Losing contact with Jesus Christ will make you weak and easily be manipulated which is true.
Kung maari lang dito ko i-share about her kahit last na.
I know there's something fishy about her. Because sabi niya magkapangalan at magka birtday daw sila ng babae niyang kapatid.
I don't believe that, until pinilit ko siya paaminin. Tapos yun nga, tama ang hinala ko. Yung ginagamit niyang pangalan noon pa is yung sa kapatid niya, also meron siya pinakita sa akin na Company/Government ID's na sa kapatid niya nakapangalan, pero sa kanyang mukha, sabi niya sa akin ang purpose lang daw nun is for employment. So pinaniwala niya ako na 35 yrs old na siya at yung kapatid niyang babae is 27 or 28. Deep inside it hurt me so much, di ko na lang sa kanya pinahalata.

Months later, I still being curious about sa hitsura nung kapatid niyang babae na kinukwento sa akin na namatay. Search ako ng search sa FB. Until, nahanap ko, mukha ng GF ko.
We talked about this personally and I forced her to admit that it was her. Then she lied, it his her identical twin daw. I don't believe it, then I cried in front of her. She finally admitted it, siguro na konsensya siya, pinakita niya yung ibang Government ID's, ayun. Yung kinukwento niyang kapatid niyang babae na namatay is siya rin naman pala. Dun ko nakita na 41 years old na pala siya. Yung kapatid niya is yung totoong 35. It's painful na lokohin ng ganyan kahit sineseryoso mo yung tao. Then inamin pa niya sa akin about dun sa pamangkin niyang babae na 5 years old is, pangalawang anak niya pala dun sa ex niya. Isa pang masakit, hindi to alam ng magulang ko, I feel guilty kasi it's like lying to them hanggat di ko sa kanila inaamin yung tungkol dito.

Sa totoo lang di na naman masakit kung iwan ko siya, ang importante natuto na ako. haha

That's all bro, maraming salamat uli.

salamat din bro hope this message will help you move on. and unting unti mo na rin i reveal sa parents mo pero huwag biglaan. i know it hurts that every truth is being exposed. ganyan kasi kapag wala ka sa liwanag, nagtatago sa dilim. let go that hurt and pain, let go that girl. you have to fix your life bro.

Just keep yourself busy okey.

 

[agentZero_007]

salamat din bro hope this message will help you move on. and unting unti mo na rin i reveal sa parents mo pero huwag biglaan. i know it hurts that every truth is being exposed. ganyan kasi kapag wala ka sa liwanag, nagtatago sa dilim. let go that hurt and pain, let go that girl. you have to fix your life bro.

Just keep yourself busy okey.

okay bro. thanks uli. ingat palagi..

 

[Monohe]

Communication is key!