PHProfessora Akira
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Our childhood affect us in many ways such us how we react on things,ouf self beliefs ,the way we E×ρréššed ourselves and other form as early as we can make sense of our environment.Based on our upbringing we have different love styles.
The Pleaser
-grow up around critical and overprotective parents.
-grow up trying to be good and do their best behavior in order not provoke their parents.
For pleaser to build a healthy relationship,they have to be honest about their feelings and create boundaries rather than doing what everyone expects.
The Victim
they grow up in a chaotic home.
-compliant by doing everything possible to take away attention from themselves.
-build an imaginary world in their heads to cope with danger they grew up in.
-they have low self steem,struggling with anxiety and depression.
-end up with controlling people who mirror their parents behavior.
used to chaos that once they experience a peaceful relationship,the calmness makes them uneasy.
To enjoy a healthy relationship,the victim needs to learn to love themselves and stand up for themselves instead of letting people walk over them.
The Controller
-grew up in a home with no protection and they had to stand up for themselves.
-they try to feel in control always to make up the vulnerability they experienced in their childhood frol being exposed.
-They believe they're in control when they can avoif negative feelings of fear,humiliation and helplessness.
-they use anger as a means to remain in power.
-they don't easily leave their comfort zone as it makes them weak and unprotected.
-they prepare to solve problems on their own
They can form stable relationships by letting go.Trusting each other and controlling their anger.
The Vaccilator
-grow up with unpredictable parents and learned that their needs are not their parents top priority.
-mostly developed a fear of abandonment because they had no consistent affection from their parents.
-in adulthood,they try to find a deep love they missed as children
-they idealize new relationship and once they feel let down,they grow doubtful.
-feel more emotional stress because of sensitivity.
-can detect when people starts to pull away
To enjoy a healthy relationship ,they need to learn to know people before committing to avoid getting hurt when expectations are not met.
The Avoider
-grow up in less affectionate home that values independence and self reliance
-they learn to take care of themselves early.
-more logical than emotional
-they feel uncomfortable when people around them experience mood swings.
To cultivate healthy relationship,they need to open up and honestly E×ρréšš their opinions.
excerpt from Growthclinic(Tochukwu)
The Pleaser
-grow up around critical and overprotective parents.
-grow up trying to be good and do their best behavior in order not provoke their parents.
- never received comfort but always try to comfort the reactive parent.
- can't handle conflicts and maybe dishonest,just to avoid confrontations.
For pleaser to build a healthy relationship,they have to be honest about their feelings and create boundaries rather than doing what everyone expects.The Victim
they grow up in a chaotic home.
-compliant by doing everything possible to take away attention from themselves.
-build an imaginary world in their heads to cope with danger they grew up in.
-they have low self steem,struggling with anxiety and depression.
-end up with controlling people who mirror their parents behavior.
used to chaos that once they experience a peaceful relationship,the calmness makes them uneasy.
To enjoy a healthy relationship,the victim needs to learn to love themselves and stand up for themselves instead of letting people walk over them.The Controller
-grew up in a home with no protection and they had to stand up for themselves.
-they try to feel in control always to make up the vulnerability they experienced in their childhood frol being exposed.
-They believe they're in control when they can avoif negative feelings of fear,humiliation and helplessness.
-they use anger as a means to remain in power.
-they don't easily leave their comfort zone as it makes them weak and unprotected.
-they prepare to solve problems on their own
They can form stable relationships by letting go.Trusting each other and controlling their anger.The Vaccilator
-grow up with unpredictable parents and learned that their needs are not their parents top priority.
-mostly developed a fear of abandonment because they had no consistent affection from their parents.
-in adulthood,they try to find a deep love they missed as children
-they idealize new relationship and once they feel let down,they grow doubtful.
-feel more emotional stress because of sensitivity.
-can detect when people starts to pull away
To enjoy a healthy relationship ,they need to learn to know people before committing to avoid getting hurt when expectations are not met.The Avoider
-grow up in less affectionate home that values independence and self reliance
-they learn to take care of themselves early.
-more logical than emotional
-they feel uncomfortable when people around them experience mood swings.
To cultivate healthy relationship,they need to open up and honestly E×ρréšš their opinions.excerpt from Growthclinic(Tochukwu)