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5 Reasons Why People Who Cry A Lot Are Mentally Strong
Unfortunately, not all emotions are created equal.
The most widely accepted emotion, happiness, is a sign of confidence, security, and success, among other things. Even if we have to āfake it till we make itā, weāve been told EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ing happiness is a sure way of gaining close friends and admirers.
Fear is perhaps the most applicable emotion, as everyone has felt it in some regard. Weāve all been scared of something before: leaving a job, asking someone to marry us, confronting a friend about something they did to upset you. And considering the daily fear mongering by mass media outlets, fear makes a strong case for the most felt emotional sensation.
Anger, though rarely welcomed, is another emotion many of us feel and practice daily. Be it in the midst of heavy traffic, at your child for breaking a prized vase, or at an incompetent coworker, anger is, again, widely accepted as a completely normal emotion.
Disgust is highly suggestive and, for the most part, remains internalized but is still regularly felt. When disgust is EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ed, in most contexts, itās usually accepted and sometimes agreeable.
Sadness, however, is in a league of itās own, much like in the new feature Pixar film Inside Out. Sadness seems to be alienated, picked on, and persecuted when EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ed fully. Outward EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ions of sadness such as droopiness of the body and face, slumping, and crying are considered signs of weakness and insecurity. Itās unfair that our culture puts sadness in such a tight box. Itās damaging, unhealthy, and downright unfair to the human life experience.
People who arenāt afraid to EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å” sadness, in fact, are far more mentally healthy than those who suppress it. Hereās why:
They arenāt afraid of their emotions.
If you were overwhelmed with joy, would you hide a smile? If you saw the innards of a squished squirrel while running or biking on the side of the road, would you not grimace? If you had an awful day at work and your unemployed roommate drank your last ice cold beer that youād been looking forward to all day, would you not be pissed off? If you were trying to find a light switch and didnāt think that your boyfriend was in the room, lurking, waiting to scare you thinking it would be funny, would you not be terrified when he jumped towards you and yelled?
So if youāre sad, why wouldnāt you cry? Why wouldnāt you slump around? Why wouldnāt you give yourself the right to be sad?
People who ignore sadness cheat themselves out of an important facet of life. Sadness, or crying, isnāt a sign of weakness, itās a sign that youāre a human and have feelings beyond what youāre told is appropriate to show in public.
They understand the healing properties of tears.
Much like a spit valve releases saliva from a trumpet, your tear ducts releases stress, anxiety, grief, and frustration from your brain and body. Itās soul cleansing, mind enriching, and goosebump inducing, almost acting as a drain for the buildup of negative emotions that result from stress. The healing properties of tears arenāt just restricted to sad tears, either, but happy tears as well. In either case youāre dealing with extreme emotion. Allowing that extreme emotion to back up and stay in the body can be very dangerous both physically and mentally.
Beyond improving move and reliving stress, crying, specifically tears, have scientific benefit because they release toxins, help improve vision, and can kill 90 to 95 percent of all bacteria in just five to 10 minutes.
They know how therapeutic crying can be.
Recent psychological studies have determined that crying stimulates our brainās endorphin release, the āfeel-goodā hormones that also act as a natural pain killer. Crying also lowers manganese levels, a chemical that, when overexposed to, can exasperate the brain and body.
Even though the problem may still persist after youāve cried it out, thereās no doubt that the act of crying allows for an overall release of bad emotion even if momentarily. This allows us to think clearer about the problem and not be so overwhelmed by it.
They donāt care about gender roles or societal expectation.
Crying is stigmatized for both sexes. If she cries itās because sheās unstable or a wreck or, the most delusional conclusion, needs attention from others. If he cries, heās a pansy, a wuss, or, my personal favorite, not manly enough. All of these generalizations encourage both sexes to submerge their sadness to the depths of their soul.
Though itās an uphill battle that can only be won an inch at a time, weāre working tirelessly to break down social constraints that hang heavy over both sexes. Those who allow themselves to be sad in public are not only brave, but also activists for an emotionally healthier society.
They invite others to not run from their feelings.
I like to cry. Or rather, I donāt let myself not be sad when I feel sadness. We are all working to overcome some sort of depressing demon thatās trying to tear us down. When we allow ourselves to feel pain when we feel it, weāre also encouraging others, either people we already know or not, to connect with our pain. To know that youāre not alone in thinking, feeling, or even acting a certain way is emotionally liberating and, in extreme cases, life saving.
Those who accept sadness when it stares them in the face allow others to do the same. Recalling the previous point, itās dangerous when we keep emotions hidden and buried within. Since sadness has negative associations, we often wonāt reach out to someone we notice is experiencing difficulty because weāre afraid, not of the person necessarily but of the act of being deeply upset.
When weāre honest to our bodies, we allow it to perpetually run at maximum capacity, even when weāre experiencing tremendous pain.
Weāve been seriously discussing good mental health practices for years now. With the dawn of therapy and heavily prescribed feel-good medications, we should all be more appreciative of our biological ability to cry and take full advantage of the natural anxiety-reliever it is.
Because crying shouldnāt be perceived as a sign of weakness, but a sign of internal strength and mindfulness.
lifehƤƧk.org
Unfortunately, not all emotions are created equal.
The most widely accepted emotion, happiness, is a sign of confidence, security, and success, among other things. Even if we have to āfake it till we make itā, weāve been told EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ing happiness is a sure way of gaining close friends and admirers.
Fear is perhaps the most applicable emotion, as everyone has felt it in some regard. Weāve all been scared of something before: leaving a job, asking someone to marry us, confronting a friend about something they did to upset you. And considering the daily fear mongering by mass media outlets, fear makes a strong case for the most felt emotional sensation.
Anger, though rarely welcomed, is another emotion many of us feel and practice daily. Be it in the midst of heavy traffic, at your child for breaking a prized vase, or at an incompetent coworker, anger is, again, widely accepted as a completely normal emotion.
Disgust is highly suggestive and, for the most part, remains internalized but is still regularly felt. When disgust is EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ed, in most contexts, itās usually accepted and sometimes agreeable.
Sadness, however, is in a league of itās own, much like in the new feature Pixar film Inside Out. Sadness seems to be alienated, picked on, and persecuted when EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ed fully. Outward EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å”ions of sadness such as droopiness of the body and face, slumping, and crying are considered signs of weakness and insecurity. Itās unfair that our culture puts sadness in such a tight box. Itās damaging, unhealthy, and downright unfair to the human life experience.
People who arenāt afraid to EĆĻrĆ©Å”Å” sadness, in fact, are far more mentally healthy than those who suppress it. Hereās why:
They arenāt afraid of their emotions.
If you were overwhelmed with joy, would you hide a smile? If you saw the innards of a squished squirrel while running or biking on the side of the road, would you not grimace? If you had an awful day at work and your unemployed roommate drank your last ice cold beer that youād been looking forward to all day, would you not be pissed off? If you were trying to find a light switch and didnāt think that your boyfriend was in the room, lurking, waiting to scare you thinking it would be funny, would you not be terrified when he jumped towards you and yelled?
So if youāre sad, why wouldnāt you cry? Why wouldnāt you slump around? Why wouldnāt you give yourself the right to be sad?
People who ignore sadness cheat themselves out of an important facet of life. Sadness, or crying, isnāt a sign of weakness, itās a sign that youāre a human and have feelings beyond what youāre told is appropriate to show in public.
They understand the healing properties of tears.
Much like a spit valve releases saliva from a trumpet, your tear ducts releases stress, anxiety, grief, and frustration from your brain and body. Itās soul cleansing, mind enriching, and goosebump inducing, almost acting as a drain for the buildup of negative emotions that result from stress. The healing properties of tears arenāt just restricted to sad tears, either, but happy tears as well. In either case youāre dealing with extreme emotion. Allowing that extreme emotion to back up and stay in the body can be very dangerous both physically and mentally.
Beyond improving move and reliving stress, crying, specifically tears, have scientific benefit because they release toxins, help improve vision, and can kill 90 to 95 percent of all bacteria in just five to 10 minutes.
They know how therapeutic crying can be.
Recent psychological studies have determined that crying stimulates our brainās endorphin release, the āfeel-goodā hormones that also act as a natural pain killer. Crying also lowers manganese levels, a chemical that, when overexposed to, can exasperate the brain and body.
Even though the problem may still persist after youāve cried it out, thereās no doubt that the act of crying allows for an overall release of bad emotion even if momentarily. This allows us to think clearer about the problem and not be so overwhelmed by it.
They donāt care about gender roles or societal expectation.
Crying is stigmatized for both sexes. If she cries itās because sheās unstable or a wreck or, the most delusional conclusion, needs attention from others. If he cries, heās a pansy, a wuss, or, my personal favorite, not manly enough. All of these generalizations encourage both sexes to submerge their sadness to the depths of their soul.
Though itās an uphill battle that can only be won an inch at a time, weāre working tirelessly to break down social constraints that hang heavy over both sexes. Those who allow themselves to be sad in public are not only brave, but also activists for an emotionally healthier society.
They invite others to not run from their feelings.
I like to cry. Or rather, I donāt let myself not be sad when I feel sadness. We are all working to overcome some sort of depressing demon thatās trying to tear us down. When we allow ourselves to feel pain when we feel it, weāre also encouraging others, either people we already know or not, to connect with our pain. To know that youāre not alone in thinking, feeling, or even acting a certain way is emotionally liberating and, in extreme cases, life saving.
Those who accept sadness when it stares them in the face allow others to do the same. Recalling the previous point, itās dangerous when we keep emotions hidden and buried within. Since sadness has negative associations, we often wonāt reach out to someone we notice is experiencing difficulty because weāre afraid, not of the person necessarily but of the act of being deeply upset.
When weāre honest to our bodies, we allow it to perpetually run at maximum capacity, even when weāre experiencing tremendous pain.
Weāve been seriously discussing good mental health practices for years now. With the dawn of therapy and heavily prescribed feel-good medications, we should all be more appreciative of our biological ability to cry and take full advantage of the natural anxiety-reliever it is.
Because crying shouldnāt be perceived as a sign of weakness, but a sign of internal strength and mindfulness.
lifehƤƧk.org
