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Donāt break up over texts/calls/emails
Nothing less than a face-to-face interaction is acceptable when it comes to break ups. Youāre about to walk out of someoneās life, you canāt just casually drop a text to inform them of your decision. They deserve better. Itād mean that the relationship never meant much to you in the first place, and you think that a text or an email is sufficient to end it. This is downright cruel! No matter how well drafted your message is, itād still be cruel. Give them the closure they deserve and NEED. If you have taken the decision, have the decency to face them and the consequences that follow.
Donāt end all contact with them so that theyād get the hint
How do you get rid of someone? You start avoiding their calls, stop replying to their messages and get yourself out of seeing them. They eventually get the message, and you never hear from them again. You simply cannot treat your partner like that. Even if youāve decided to break up with them doesnāt mean you shouldnāt be considerate of their feelings. Itās very insulting to them and damages their self-esteem. And since they never really get to know why you just vanished into thin air, this is something that always sticks with them. So save them the life-long scar and do it like it ought to be done.
Donāt cheat your way out of the relationship
You know that they will no longer want to be with you as soon as they find out that thereās someone else in the picture. Even if there is another person, your relationship doesnāt automatically become void. Youāre still accountable to your partner. If youāre caught cheating on them, youāre making things more difficult for yourself. Do the right thing; tell them that you canāt be with them anymore. And wait for a little while after the break up before you pursue someone else.
Donāt do it in public
Itās undoubtedly one of the mist difficult conversations ever. And you never know how theyād react to this unexpected news. If youāre doing it in a public place where you donāt even have the slightest bit of privacy, you could be asking for unnecessary attention. If you break up with them in public, and they break down, it could be very embarrassing for them. If theyāre mad at you and act impulsively itās becomes embarrassing for you as well. Itād only make matters worse.
Donāt just spring it on them
Even if you intend to do it in person, make sure theyāre not expecting it to be a date. You could tell them that you need to talk about the relationship, rather than leading them to think itās another one of your meets. This way, theyād be mentally prepared to take the news. They might not be expecting a break up, but theyād be able to process it better. Donāt ever break up on a date. You canāt just tell them itās over before, after or even during the date. Itās confusing and harsh for them to accept it.
Donāt use clichĆ©s
Its bad enough youāre telling them that you donāt want to be with them anymore. Using clichĆ©s like āitās not you, itās meā, āyou deserve someone better than meā, āIām not good enough for youā and so many others just shows that you couldnāt even bother to think of what to say to them. Youāre simply falling back on clichĆ©s because maybe what you say to them, and what it does to them is the least of your concerns.
And the worst of all is āweāre better off as friendsā. Youāre the one breaking up with them. You donāt get to decide how you two should continue, itās their choice to keep in touch with you or not.
Honesty is an important element not only just during the relationship, but also at its end. However difficult it may be, but once youāve made up your mind about letting them go, donāt drag it on. Be forthcoming. Tell them how it is. And please do it in person. Allow them to have a chance to come to terms with it. Be patient to their reactions. Just make sure that youāre doing the right thing for the right reasons.
relrulescom
Donāt break up over texts/calls/emails
Nothing less than a face-to-face interaction is acceptable when it comes to break ups. Youāre about to walk out of someoneās life, you canāt just casually drop a text to inform them of your decision. They deserve better. Itād mean that the relationship never meant much to you in the first place, and you think that a text or an email is sufficient to end it. This is downright cruel! No matter how well drafted your message is, itād still be cruel. Give them the closure they deserve and NEED. If you have taken the decision, have the decency to face them and the consequences that follow.
Donāt end all contact with them so that theyād get the hint
How do you get rid of someone? You start avoiding their calls, stop replying to their messages and get yourself out of seeing them. They eventually get the message, and you never hear from them again. You simply cannot treat your partner like that. Even if youāve decided to break up with them doesnāt mean you shouldnāt be considerate of their feelings. Itās very insulting to them and damages their self-esteem. And since they never really get to know why you just vanished into thin air, this is something that always sticks with them. So save them the life-long scar and do it like it ought to be done.
Donāt cheat your way out of the relationship
You know that they will no longer want to be with you as soon as they find out that thereās someone else in the picture. Even if there is another person, your relationship doesnāt automatically become void. Youāre still accountable to your partner. If youāre caught cheating on them, youāre making things more difficult for yourself. Do the right thing; tell them that you canāt be with them anymore. And wait for a little while after the break up before you pursue someone else.
Donāt do it in public
Itās undoubtedly one of the mist difficult conversations ever. And you never know how theyād react to this unexpected news. If youāre doing it in a public place where you donāt even have the slightest bit of privacy, you could be asking for unnecessary attention. If you break up with them in public, and they break down, it could be very embarrassing for them. If theyāre mad at you and act impulsively itās becomes embarrassing for you as well. Itād only make matters worse.
Donāt just spring it on them
Even if you intend to do it in person, make sure theyāre not expecting it to be a date. You could tell them that you need to talk about the relationship, rather than leading them to think itās another one of your meets. This way, theyād be mentally prepared to take the news. They might not be expecting a break up, but theyād be able to process it better. Donāt ever break up on a date. You canāt just tell them itās over before, after or even during the date. Itās confusing and harsh for them to accept it.
Donāt use clichĆ©s
Its bad enough youāre telling them that you donāt want to be with them anymore. Using clichĆ©s like āitās not you, itās meā, āyou deserve someone better than meā, āIām not good enough for youā and so many others just shows that you couldnāt even bother to think of what to say to them. Youāre simply falling back on clichĆ©s because maybe what you say to them, and what it does to them is the least of your concerns.
And the worst of all is āweāre better off as friendsā. Youāre the one breaking up with them. You donāt get to decide how you two should continue, itās their choice to keep in touch with you or not.
Honesty is an important element not only just during the relationship, but also at its end. However difficult it may be, but once youāve made up your mind about letting them go, donāt drag it on. Be forthcoming. Tell them how it is. And please do it in person. Allow them to have a chance to come to terms with it. Be patient to their reactions. Just make sure that youāre doing the right thing for the right reasons.
relrulescom
Hahahaha! Grabe naman yon ganito na talaga pag matanda na. 
