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Donât break up over texts/calls/emails
Nothing less than a face-to-face interaction is acceptable when it comes to break ups. Youâre about to walk out of someoneâs life, you canât just casually drop a text to inform them of your decision. They deserve better. Itâd mean that the relationship never meant much to you in the first place, and you think that a text or an email is sufficient to end it. This is downright cruel! No matter how well drafted your message is, itâd still be cruel. Give them the closure they deserve and NEED. If you have taken the decision, have the decency to face them and the consequences that follow.
Donât end all contact with them so that theyâd get the hint
How do you get rid of someone? You start avoiding their calls, stop replying to their messages and get yourself out of seeing them. They eventually get the message, and you never hear from them again. You simply cannot treat your partner like that. Even if youâve decided to break up with them doesnât mean you shouldnât be considerate of their feelings. Itâs very insulting to them and damages their self-esteem. And since they never really get to know why you just vanished into thin air, this is something that always sticks with them. So save them the life-long scar and do it like it ought to be done.
Donât cheat your way out of the relationship
You know that they will no longer want to be with you as soon as they find out that thereâs someone else in the picture. Even if there is another person, your relationship doesnât automatically become void. Youâre still accountable to your partner. If youâre caught cheating on them, youâre making things more difficult for yourself. Do the right thing; tell them that you canât be with them anymore. And wait for a little while after the break up before you pursue someone else.
Donât do it in public
Itâs undoubtedly one of the mist difficult conversations ever. And you never know how theyâd react to this unexpected news. If youâre doing it in a public place where you donât even have the slightest bit of privacy, you could be asking for unnecessary attention. If you break up with them in public, and they break down, it could be very embarrassing for them. If theyâre mad at you and act impulsively itâs becomes embarrassing for you as well. Itâd only make matters worse.
Donât just spring it on them
Even if you intend to do it in person, make sure theyâre not expecting it to be a date. You could tell them that you need to talk about the relationship, rather than leading them to think itâs another one of your meets. This way, theyâd be mentally prepared to take the news. They might not be expecting a break up, but theyâd be able to process it better. Donât ever break up on a date. You canât just tell them itâs over before, after or even during the date. Itâs confusing and harsh for them to accept it.
Donât use clichĂ©s
Its bad enough youâre telling them that you donât want to be with them anymore. Using clichĂ©s like âitâs not you, itâs meâ, âyou deserve someone better than meâ, âIâm not good enough for youâ and so many others just shows that you couldnât even bother to think of what to say to them. Youâre simply falling back on clichĂ©s because maybe what you say to them, and what it does to them is the least of your concerns.
And the worst of all is âweâre better off as friendsâ. Youâre the one breaking up with them. You donât get to decide how you two should continue, itâs their choice to keep in touch with you or not.
Honesty is an important element not only just during the relationship, but also at its end. However difficult it may be, but once youâve made up your mind about letting them go, donât drag it on. Be forthcoming. Tell them how it is. And please do it in person. Allow them to have a chance to come to terms with it. Be patient to their reactions. Just make sure that youâre doing the right thing for the right reasons.
relrulescom
Donât break up over texts/calls/emails
Nothing less than a face-to-face interaction is acceptable when it comes to break ups. Youâre about to walk out of someoneâs life, you canât just casually drop a text to inform them of your decision. They deserve better. Itâd mean that the relationship never meant much to you in the first place, and you think that a text or an email is sufficient to end it. This is downright cruel! No matter how well drafted your message is, itâd still be cruel. Give them the closure they deserve and NEED. If you have taken the decision, have the decency to face them and the consequences that follow.
Donât end all contact with them so that theyâd get the hint
How do you get rid of someone? You start avoiding their calls, stop replying to their messages and get yourself out of seeing them. They eventually get the message, and you never hear from them again. You simply cannot treat your partner like that. Even if youâve decided to break up with them doesnât mean you shouldnât be considerate of their feelings. Itâs very insulting to them and damages their self-esteem. And since they never really get to know why you just vanished into thin air, this is something that always sticks with them. So save them the life-long scar and do it like it ought to be done.
Donât cheat your way out of the relationship
You know that they will no longer want to be with you as soon as they find out that thereâs someone else in the picture. Even if there is another person, your relationship doesnât automatically become void. Youâre still accountable to your partner. If youâre caught cheating on them, youâre making things more difficult for yourself. Do the right thing; tell them that you canât be with them anymore. And wait for a little while after the break up before you pursue someone else.
Donât do it in public
Itâs undoubtedly one of the mist difficult conversations ever. And you never know how theyâd react to this unexpected news. If youâre doing it in a public place where you donât even have the slightest bit of privacy, you could be asking for unnecessary attention. If you break up with them in public, and they break down, it could be very embarrassing for them. If theyâre mad at you and act impulsively itâs becomes embarrassing for you as well. Itâd only make matters worse.
Donât just spring it on them
Even if you intend to do it in person, make sure theyâre not expecting it to be a date. You could tell them that you need to talk about the relationship, rather than leading them to think itâs another one of your meets. This way, theyâd be mentally prepared to take the news. They might not be expecting a break up, but theyâd be able to process it better. Donât ever break up on a date. You canât just tell them itâs over before, after or even during the date. Itâs confusing and harsh for them to accept it.
Donât use clichĂ©s
Its bad enough youâre telling them that you donât want to be with them anymore. Using clichĂ©s like âitâs not you, itâs meâ, âyou deserve someone better than meâ, âIâm not good enough for youâ and so many others just shows that you couldnât even bother to think of what to say to them. Youâre simply falling back on clichĂ©s because maybe what you say to them, and what it does to them is the least of your concerns.
And the worst of all is âweâre better off as friendsâ. Youâre the one breaking up with them. You donât get to decide how you two should continue, itâs their choice to keep in touch with you or not.
Honesty is an important element not only just during the relationship, but also at its end. However difficult it may be, but once youâve made up your mind about letting them go, donât drag it on. Be forthcoming. Tell them how it is. And please do it in person. Allow them to have a chance to come to terms with it. Be patient to their reactions. Just make sure that youâre doing the right thing for the right reasons.
relrulescom
Hahahaha! Grabe naman yon ganito na talaga pag matanda na. 
