Before anything, I do not expect you to feel the same. I am sure mas mabigat ang pinag dadaanan mo keysa samin. But let me share you our experience and realization.
3 years ago, my wife discovered na stage 4 na ang mama nya. 7 mos ang taning. Right away, we did our best to support her sa pagpapagamot at pag ttravel para makipag reunion sa mga friends and family, ipagawa ang bahay, and overall improve her quality of life. A year later malaki ang recovery nya. We were happy.
A few months after the good news, yung tatay namn nya, stage 4 din. Eventually, both ay nag metastasize na sa lungs. This year nag pass away na ang mother-in-law ko habang ang tatay nya ay kasalukuyan padin lumalaban.
Despite that, knowing that they will eventually die someday, my wife said "maybe cancer is a blessing." Hindi sya kasing sudden ng stroke which will sometimes leave a person in a vegetative state. Hindi din nmn ideal ang long life dahil nagiging alagain ang tao, and in the end, most of the people dear to them are already gone. Cancer seemed to be the ideal balance that allows people to enjoy their remaining life, but not too slow that the way their family will remember them is as a burden at the end.