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[Jocker in town]

Help!
The idea whether to wait for love or make a move got me perplexed.

Ang hirap mag desisyon. I always have this conventional belief kasi na maghintay at darating din ang tamang tao para sayo, which what I did for so many years , No wonder I am single since 2011 . Yes! you've read it right. I am single for 12 ****in' years.

But lately I've realized that I've waited long enough, and that maybe it's time to search for that special being. Pero worried ako na kapag natagpuan ko na yung taong yun, paano kung di na ako marunong magmahal? paano kung iiwan din ako kasi wala akong experience? Paano kung masyado akong nasanay na mag-isa to the point na di ko na alam paano mag handle nag relasyon?


Ayokong dumating sa point na sasabihin ko sa sarili ko " Sana pala talaga di na lang ako sumubok"

P.S. I am a sapiosexual. I fall in love with the mind. DM sa may gusto hahaha

 

[Real_Deal 24]

Wag mo ng subukan paps. Masisira panunugal natin

 

[Jocker in town]

Wag mo ng subukan paps. Masisira panunugal natin

HAHAHAHAHA. baka matulad kay Solo21 HAHAHHA

 

[PHC-forever]

Last comment my pangstarbucks oh

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Ikaw ang gagawa ng forever. Hindi yan hinahanap.

 

[Jocker in town]

Last comment my pangstarbucks oh

Pwidi piro dipindi sa bigay ng scatter round hahah

 

[PHC-forever]

Pwidi piro dipindi sa bigay ng scatter round hahah

 

[Jocker in town]

Ikaw ang gagawa ng forever. Hindi yan hinahanap.

kusang darating? kelan? tired of this waiting game.

 

[PHC-forever]

Ikaw ang gagawa ng forever. Hindi yan hinahanap.

Hindi totoo ang forever boss together lng

kusang darating? kelan? tired of this waiting game.

All in is the key

 

[Jocker in town]

Hindi totoo ang forever boss together lng


All in is the key

sana all may ka together. Yung akin kasi together with somebody else na. kala ko mapapasaken na 2 years ago haha

sana all may ka together. Yung akin kasi together with somebody else na. kala ko mapapasaken na 2 years ago haha

allin amp*ts haha

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

kusang darating? kelan? tired of this waiting game.

Hindi yan kusang darating.

 

[PHC-forever]

Hindi yan kusang darating.

Tayo mismo maghahanap ng distini

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Tayo mismo maghahanap ng distini

Hindi din. Actually kahit randomly ka pumili ng partner, kung hindi mapang-abuso, pwede siya makatuluyan mo e. Haha

 

[PHC-forever]

Hindi din. Actually kahit randomly ka pumili ng partner, kung hindi mapang-abuso, pwede siya makatuluyan mo e. Haha

Ok to magadvice

 

[Jocker in town]

Hindi din. Actually kahit randomly ka pumili ng partner, kung hindi mapang-abuso, pwede siya makatuluyan mo e. Haha

parang ang hirap naman ng term na "randomly" because you cannot just love randomly. Hindi naman siguro pwede na " Uy! itong taong to, ito na lang. Okay na"

Ok to magadvice

di gaya mo haha

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

parang ang hirap naman ng term na "randomly" because you cannot just love randomly. Hindi naman siguro pwede na " Uy! itong taong to, ito na lang. Okay na"


di gaya mo haha

Pero seriously, ang best na karelasyon is not necessarily the best person. It is the person that 'coincidently' help you to be the best version of yourself.

 

[PHC-forever]

Pero seriously, ang best na karelasyon is not necessarily the best person. It is the person that 'coincidently' help you to be the best version of yourself.

Wow

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Think about it, nung nakipag break ka sa ex mo, it is not necessary na masamang tao siya, Oo may sisihan kaya here and there, pero, it is mostly he/she has turned you into a worst version, kaya ka bumitaw diba?
Unless pavictim ka, hindi ganyan ang magiging conclusion mo... hahahaha

 

[Jocker in town]

Pero seriously, ang best na karelasyon is not necessarily the best person. It is the person that 'coincidently' help you to be the best version of yourself.

I somehow find that agreeable. Kasi wala namang taong best for you. Naniniwala din kasi ako na pag gusto nyo ang isat isa, you'll do what it takes to make it work kahit worse na yung situation. Love is a commitment. Kahit pa hindi kayo magka tugma , and you are are each other opposition, pero dahil may pangako kayo sa isat isa. Sisikapin nyo pareho

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

I somehow find that agreeable. Kasi wala namang taong best for you. Naniniwala din kasi ako na pag gusto nyo ang isat isa, you'll do what it takes to make it work kahit worse na yung situation. Love is a commitment. Kahit pa hindi kayo magka tugma , and you are are each other opposition, pero dahil may pangako kayo sa isat isa. Sisikapin nyo pareho

Yang part kasi na "gusto nyo ang isa't isa" ang mahirap asahan. Hindi ko nilalahat, pero madaming yan ang ginamit na pundasyon ng relasyon nila, kaya isang araw bigla nlng "wala nang spark".
Sa pag rerelasyon, minsan mistakenly natin naglalagay sa pundasyon nito ung mga bagay na temporary.

Minsan naiinlove tayo sa suot nya nung araw na yun, o sa mindset nya nung araw na yun, o minsan dahil naliibúgan ka nung panahon na yun. (Thats an exagerration). Lahat yan nagbabago over time. So pag nawala n ung mga feeling na yan, pano na?

Eto unconventional na post ko minsan but it hovers on the same point:

Alam mo, yung sistema natin na may freedom ka mamili kung sino magiging partner mo sa buhay is both a blessing and a curse.

Dahil sa ganitong sistema, madali tayo malinlang o malito sa difference ng infatuation and love. Minsan nag jojowa tayo for the enjoyment of it, minsan naman dahil sa lust, and we fail to consider yung long term details. Kaya dumadating ang punto na nagsasawa tayo.

Pag naranasan mo na ang long term na relationship, you will realize na loving someone is not a passive feeling na sasabay ka lang sa agos. It is really an active choice. Actually kahit sino pa yan, as long as hindi ka inabuso, kaya mo matutunan mahalin. Much more kung partner mo na siya diba?

Sa mga kultura na arranged marriage sila, they kinda have it easy, kasi right away ang uri lang ng love na pupwede nilang maranasan is the active choice to love. Eto din nmn ang principle na nais ituro ng Catholic Faith kaya ayaw padin nila tanggapin ang divorce. They want us to learn that love is actively choosing the same person.

Not that I agree with arranged marriage, and anti-divorce ng church, but they do have a point.

So maybe there is really something to learn from them?