Alam mo, yung sistema natin na may freedom ka mamili kung sino magiging partner mo sa buhay is both a blessing and a curse.
Dahil sa ganitong sistema, madali tayo malinlang o malito sa difference ng infatuation and love. Minsan nag jojowa tayo for the enjoyment of it, minsan naman dahil sa lust, and we fail to consider yung long term details. Kaya dumadating ang punto na nagsasawa tayo.
Pag naranasan mo na ang long term na relationship, you will realize na loving someone is not a passive feeling na sasabay ka lang sa agos. It is really an active choice. Actually kahit sino pa yan, as long as hindi ka inabuso, kaya mo matutunan mahalin. Much more kung partner mo na siya diba?
Sa mga kultura na arranged marriage sila, they kinda have it easy, kasi right away ang uri lang ng love na pupwede nilang maranasan is the active choice to love. Eto din nmn ang principle na nais ituro ng Catholic Faith kaya ayaw padin nila tanggapin ang divorce. They want us to learn that love is actively choosing the same person.
Not that I agree with arranged marriage, and anti-divorce ng church, but they do have a point.
So maybe there is really something to learn from them?