🔒 Closed Survey: why do people become shy in front of too many people?

[Airha20]

Dahil hindi mo sila kilala at never mo pang nakakasama pero may mga tao talagang ipinanganak ng mahiyain o di kaya takot makisalamuha sa mga tao yung gusto palaging nag iisa ..

 

[xXx-KuyaJ-xXx]

lack of confidence is the main factor that causes shyness or inability of a person to speak infront of many people but there are a lot of factors as well such as traumatic experiences and emotional and social issues. example: if a person is a victim of public shaming, body shaming or just a simple verbal pre judgement, simple words of insult can affect a person's behavior making them less productive, attentive, and have a complete decline in their sense of participation. Let me share an experience of mine.. this was back in my childhood days i was an intelligent child back in the day ( not being boastful or something ) but a lot things of happened to me that totally shattered my confidence first is failure ( i failed a spelling bee contest in my pre school ) ever since i refuse to join any quiz bee or spelling bees even though i was the most qualified in the class, second is getting laughed at i have a little bit of phobia when people are looking at me and laugh at the same time ( even though they are not talking about me ) or even when im reciting when someone laughs for some reason i lose focus and end up stuttering, lastly i am afraid of making mistakes because people might judge me. Years passed and i get over it but sometimes it's still there.. the damage has been done and it cannot be undone so let this be a lesson to those people to choose their words wisely and stop pre judgement it might not be obvious but a simple word of insult may not seem to do something bad to a person but in reality an insult that is way too offensive hurts more than a fractured arm.

Isisingit ko din naging mahiyain din ako kasi ang taba taba ko pero nag gym ako para mabigyan ang sarili ko ng self confidence to further enhance myself to become a better person.

Sakto ka paps, love your answer, TY

 

[killua2016]

Because we are afraid to commit, we are afraid of failing. Our mind is afraid of those things but if we remove those fears we can go to many people especially the ones that we admire or love.

 

[47ronnien]

Intimidation paps.. or inferiority complex. They feel they might do something stupid in front of others.. baka may social trauma.. just my opinion sir.

 

[47ronnien]

Intimidation or inferiority complex idol... feeling they do not belong to any group kasi baka makagawa sila ng ikakapahiya nila.. just an opinion

 

[47ronnien]

Alangya kala ko di nagsend yung unang message hehe sorry idol.. nag double send pala.. nag log kasi kanina..

 

[risjohn]

Nakakahiya lalo na maganda o pogi kaharap mo, "tapos alam mong pangit ka" awkward din e.

 

[hackeru]

Introvert

 

[deekz]

Hmmm tulad ng sabi nila:
1. Trauma
2. Unaccustomed
3. Lack of selfEsteem/confidence -which can brought about by #1 rin

I read a comment though..
Im an ambivert, manifest both intro and extro. Yes, we do exist haha. I do like crowds, social gatherings, meeting new people etc. Pero I value my "own" time as well. After a long tiring social event, I would sometimes prefer to be alone. Contemplate on things/ event of the day. Not that Im lonely. Giving time for ones self can be a bliss too.

 

[Yelskie1988]

Walang tiwala sa sarili

 

[jammin]

lack of self confidence

Kadalasan din po kasi nauumay na rin lng siguro sa kaartehan at sangkatutak na drama ng mga tao

 

[jammin]

Walang tiwala sa sarili

well there are so called introverted people and extroverts whereas introverted people doesn't like being with a large group of people or in other words not sociable unlike extrovert where it gives them more confidence or energy just by being with others and another thing that contributes to the ability that gives people the tendency to be shy in front of others is because of a personal problems in the past that have been experienced by the person and it creates a bad memory to him making him to be shy with other people but you can overcome it or cope up through practice being with other people, it doesn't have to be with a group of people but you can start with 1 or 2 that you can call as a friend and they can help you to overcome it

Well said

 

[Serenitylove]

well there are so called introverted people and extroverts whereas introverted people doesn't like being with a large group of people or in other words not sociable unlike extrovert where it gives them more confidence or energy just by being with others and another thing that contributes to the ability that gives people the tendency to be shy in front of others is because of a personal problems in the past that have been experienced by the person and it creates a bad memory to him making him to be shy with other people but you can overcome it or cope up through practice being with other people, it doesn't have to be with a group of people but you can start with 1 or 2 that you can call as a friend and they can help you to overcome it

Excellent answer KayNine ^•^

 

[Serenitylove]

He or she is not used to it, needs more push and confidence.

 

[dhusky24]

may maga tao kasi boss tahimik sa ibang tao pero sa mga close lang sila masalita

 

[storm_raiders]

Natakot lang master baka magkami kaya ayon nganga...

 

[armanenthaki]

Takot mapahiya hahahahahah

 

[Hayahay00]

Either masyadong strict ung parents un bang pagsasabihan or pagdidisiplina sa bata na pagka uwi galing school uwi kana agad ng bahay at mag aral. So wala kang social life at the more na isolate mo sarili mo sa isang sulok the more na hindi ka masasanay na humarap sa ibang tao which can cause shyness or much worst phobia. Others are lack of confidence or self esteem un bang tingin mo sa sarili mo ang panget panget mo tsaka feeling mo kukutsain kalang nila so u better give up than trying approaching other people.

 

[Fajart]

Ashamed

 

[Jmrie_]

Introvert
Anti social
Takot mahusgahan
Takot pagtawanan
Nasanay mag isa
Depress
Mas gusto siguro nila na sila lang magisa
Ganto ako medyo mahiyain pag bago palang kilala ang mga tao sa paligid ko