🕯️ Traditions Adulting 101

[bloodycraft]

Good day! Since wala ako makita na adulting thread, gumawa na lang ako. I'd hope my fellow parents would share their insights and experiences, struggles and breakthrough, all that is related to parenting.

By the way, I do have a daughter and Im somewhat feeling anxious, sooner or later she'll fall for a guy and i wouldnt want her to get hurt. At the same time, I dont want to be overprotective tho. haha.. Conflicting thoughts.

 

[Red Satan]

For me, don't be overprotective, because hindi mo naman maiiwasan ang mga bagay na yun though, ang gawin mo is ituro mo sakanya na ang mga bagay na iyon ay masama at mapapasama siya pag ginawa niya. In my case my cp ang anak ko and i know hiindi naman 24/7 ma monitor mo ang mga nakikita niya, those things are inevitable lalo sa internet age natin. Kaya siya even at 8 years old alam na niya kung bad word yun kaya alam niya na di niya pwde sabhin yun at pakingan. communication is still the best.

 

[Mr On Lee]

For me, don't be overprotective, because hindi mo naman maiiwasan ang mga bagay na yun though, ang gawin mo is ituro mo sakanya na ang mga bagay na iyon ay masama at mapapasama siya pag ginawa niya. In my case my cp ang anak ko and i know hiindi naman 24/7 ma monitor mo ang mga nakikita niya, those things are inevitable lalo sa internet age natin. Kaya siya even at 8 years old alam na niya kung bad word yun kaya alam niya na di niya pwde sabhin yun at pakingan. communication is still the best.

wag ka mkikinig kay satanas gumawa ka ng sarili mong desisyon yun lang

 

[bloodycraft]

For me, don't be overprotective, because hindi mo naman maiiwasan ang mga bagay na yun though, ang gawin mo is ituro mo sakanya na ang mga bagay na iyon ay masama at mapapasama siya pag ginawa niya. In my case my cp ang anak ko and i know hiindi naman 24/7 ma monitor mo ang mga nakikita niya, those things are inevitable lalo sa internet age natin. Kaya siya even at 8 years old alam na niya kung bad word yun kaya alam niya na di niya pwde sabhin yun at pakingan. communication is still the best.

Thanks, 11 years old pa lang nman sakin. haha,, iba na panahon nila. Tsaka minsan sinasabi ko na lang mga consequences sa bawat option na pwede nya gawin. Hindi sila pwede basta basta diktahan, pero pwede sila gabayan.

 

[Professora Akira]

Teach your daughter that anyone who tries to convince her otherwise isn't right for her, and someone who doesn't see her worth hasn't earned a place in her life.Teach her about respect and being respected towards others,in short it should be a two way street.Don't let her own insecurity ruins from the life she deserve,teach her about self love as well.Always remind her not to trick herself into believing what she knows amd that true love is about affection,its selfless and generous most times.
Try to help her recognize red flags or signs she shoudn't stay with someone and lastly teach her to recognize heartbreak benefits because they way she will handle it will teach her in the near future.It might help a little.

 

[bloodycraft]

Teach your daughter that anyone who tries to convince her otherwise isn't right for her, and someone who doesn't see her worth hasn't earned a place in her life.Teach her about respect and being respected towards others,in short it should be a two way street.Don't let her own insecurity ruins from the life she deserve,teach her about self love as well.Always remind her not to trick herself into believing what she knows amd that true love is about affection,its selfless and generous most times.
Try to help her recognize red flags or signs she shoudn't stay with someone and lastly teach her to recognize heartbreak benefits because they way she will handle it will teach her in the near future.It might help a little.

Thanks prof. As a woman, self learned lang ba to sayo or have u been taught at an early age?

 

[Professora Akira]

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Thanks prof. As a woman, self learned lang ba to sayo or have u been taught at an early age?

Most of them ,self learned lang po ,mas ok kasi ganyan at least maging handa sila whatever happens in the near future..

 

[bloodycraft]

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Most of them ,self learned lang po ,mas ok kasi ganyan at least maging handa sila whatever happens in the near future..

Hats off to your parents for raising such a good woman. We can also learn from other's mistakes, pero mas ramdam at mas matututo pa nga pag first hand na yung mga experience. Galing galing naman, communication galing kay Red Satan at respect and self love from Professora Akira . Just when I thought walang papansin sa topic dahil baka puro mga bata nandito, yet here you are sharing your insights. Thank you.

 

[Professora Akira]

Hats off to your parents for raising such a good woman. We can also learn from other's mistakes, pero mas ramdam at mas matututo pa nga pag first hand na yung mga experience. Galing galing naman, communication galing kay Red Satan at respect and self love from Professora Akira . Just when I thought walang papansin sa topic dahil baka puro mga bata nandito, yet here you are sharing your insights. Thank you.

my pleasure ,dama ko minsan mga ganyang topic eh hehe,kahit mostly duon ako sa jokes and thead tumatambay naghahanap din ako mga ganitong topics,oo nga mostly mga bata pa talaga dito....

 

[bloodycraft]

my pleasure ,dama ko minsan mga ganyang topic eh hehe,kahit mostly duon ako sa jokes and thead tumatambay naghahanap din ako mga ganitong topics,oo nga mostly mga bata pa talaga dito....

Well, I think meron na din mga parents pero wala pa sa isip nila yung mga ganitong scenario kasi bata pa mga anak nila. Or nagooverthink lang talaga ko sa mga bagay bagay. haha. I'd hope na sana makatulong din to para sa kanila,

 

[Professora Akira]

Well, I think meron na din mga parents pero wala pa sa isip nila yung mga ganitong scenario kasi bata pa mga anak nila. Or nagooverthink lang talaga ko sa mga bagay bagay. haha. I'd hope na sana makatulong din to para sa kanila,

yup ganun na nga hehe

 

[jayendecastro]

I have a 13yo daughter, a son who just turned 11 and my youngest is my 5yo daughter… pinaimportante na tinuturo ko sa knila is communication… i always tell them na they can talk to me about anything whether we disagree or agree eh basta naguusap usap… ung eldest ko mejo independent na at very responsible pero syempre typical na teenager pa din… ung son ko mejo childish pa at ung bunso eh wala bata pa talaga…. I dont need to check ung mga DMs nila kasi sila na mismo nagshishare at ask sken… of cors may mga bagay na di appropriate for them na nalalaman nila thru frends and the internet na di ko dinidismiss agad abruptly.. iniiexplain ko muna why its inappropriate pa para sa knila.. sa studies nila super aware sila na i care more about sa behavior and conduct nila kesa sa grades… open ako sa knila about sa atheism ko but i dont force anything on them…sa cursing na sobrang talamak na sa internet eh i dont have a big problem na pagagalitan sila pag npacurse sila or what… sabi ko sa knila “walang bad words only bad intentions” no matter what words u use kung ang intention mo eh makasakit ng kapwa then dun pa lang ung nagiging bad…

 

[bloodycraft]

I have a 13yo daughter, a son who just turned 11 and my youngest is my 5yo daughter… pinaimportante na tinuturo ko sa knila is communication… i always tell them na they can talk to me about anything whether we disagree or agree eh basta naguusap usap… ung eldest ko mejo independent na at very responsible pero syempre typical na teenager pa din… ung son ko mejo childish pa at ung bunso eh wala bata pa talaga…. I dont need to check ung mga DMs nila kasi sila na mismo nagshishare at ask sken… of cors may mga bagay na di appropriate for them na nalalaman nila thru frends and the internet na di ko dinidismiss agad abruptly.. iniiexplain ko muna why its inappropriate pa para sa knila.. sa studies nila super aware sila na i care more about sa behavior and conduct nila kesa sa grades… open ako sa knila about sa atheism ko but i dont force anything on them…sa cursing na sobrang talamak na sa internet eh i dont have a big problem na pagagalitan sila pag npacurse sila or what… sabi ko sa knila “walang bad words only bad intentions” no matter what words u use kung ang intention mo eh makasakit ng kapwa then dun pa lang ung nagiging bad…

wow..Thank you dito lods. Medyo tinamaan ako kasi pinupush ko anak ko na mas magaral ng mabuti. Tho, hindi ko nman sya nirerequire na magkaron ng mga honors or recognition. Tsaka dun sa mga nakikita or naririnig nila paligid or online, positive or negative man, maganda talaga na open sila na pagusapan. Masasabi man natn na bata pa mga anak mo pero I can say na u're on the right track, keep it up and thank you dito,. isa na nmang dagdag kaalaman.

 

[jayendecastro]

wow..Thank you dito lods. Medyo tinamaan ako kasi pinupush ko anak ko na mas magaral ng mabuti. Tho, hindi ko nman sya nirerequire na magkaron ng mga honors or recognition. Tsaka dun sa mga nakikita or naririnig nila paligid or online, positive or negative man, maganda talaga na open sila na pagusapan. Masasabi man natn na bata pa mga anak mo pero I can say na u're on the right track, keep it up and thank you dito,. isa na nmang dagdag kaalaman.

K lang nman may konting push sa kids… ganan ako before sa eldest ko.. i pushed her na magjoin sa arts and crafts club nila kasi nakikita ko talent nea for that.. kaso ayaw nea at di nea daw kaya.. syempre ako knowing her skill eh i convinced her tapos thru that nabuild confidence nea about her talent at nadiscover nea na wanna nea maging designer or architect dahil dun… i told her lang na good na may goal na sya kahit bata pa but at the same time assuring her na okay lang na magbago isip nea about what she wants basta its her choice…

Tska one advice din pa… never compare… dont compare kids mo sa ka age nila.. dont compare ung magkakapatid sa isat isa… bawat bata iba iba talaga… even sa 2 kids ko naransanan ko yan.. iba ung phase ni Sofia kay xian… iba ung maturity level ni sofia kay xian at the same moments sa buhay nila…

Skl ung batangas trip nmen last sunday… imagine ganang kakulitan ng kids nyo … bgm randomly played lang from spoti… alam na nila ung song actually…theyre just vibing lang nman… may tan pa mga yan at sunog pa from swimming a week ago

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[bloodycraft]

K lang nman may konting push sa kids… ganan ako before sa eldest ko.. i pushed her na magjoin sa arts and crafts club nila kasi nakikita ko talent nea for that.. kaso ayaw nea at di nea daw kaya.. syempre ako knowing her skill eh i convinced her tapos thru that nabuild confidence nea about her talent at nadiscover nea na wanna nea maging designer or architect dahil dun… i told her lang na good na may goal na sya kahit bata pa but at the same time assuring her na okay lang na magbago isip nea about what she wants basta its her choice…

Tska one advice din pa… never compare… dont compare kids mo sa ka age nila.. dont compare ung magkakapatid sa isat isa… bawat bata iba iba talaga… even sa 2 kids ko naransanan ko yan.. iba ung phase ni Sofia kay xian… iba ung maturity level ni sofia kay xian at the same moments sa buhay nila…

Skl ung batangas trip nmen last sunday… imagine ganang kakulitan ng kids nyo … bgm randomly played lang from spoti… alam na nila ung song actually…theyre just vibing lang nman… may tan pa mga yan at sunog pa from swimming a week ago
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Mukhang super enjoy mga kids. haha, npakinggan ko na ung bgm, medyo pangmature sya, ahaha. Somehow, i feel happy kapag nakakaencounter ako ng ganitong fam or closeness within them. having said, I have to do more. unahin muna sa communication part.

 

[jayendecastro]

Mukhang super enjoy mga kids. haha, npakinggan ko na ung bgm, medyo pangmature sya, ahaha. Somehow, i feel happy kapag nakakaencounter ako ng ganitong fam or closeness within them. having said, I have to do more. unahin muna sa communication part.

Yah… mga ganang bagay ang di mo maiiwasan na di maeexpose ang mga bata lalo na sa tiktok at twitter… lalo na sa mga streamer at games… lage lang kame naguusap bout sa mga ganon at i dont dismiss their questions kung meron man ng basta basta…sinasabi ko lang di pa bagay sa age nila pagusapan ang ganon… open kame sa lahat ng usapan like homosexuality, racism etc… pag naguusap kame and they are confused pa eh iniiexplain ko na may things na di pa nila maiintindihan now pero its good na they’re aware sa mga bagay bagay

 

[bloodycraft]

Yah… mga ganang bagay ang di mo maiiwasan na di maeexpose ang mga bata lalo na sa tiktok at twitter… lalo na sa mga streamer at games… lage lang kame naguusap bout sa mga ganon at i dont dismiss their questions kung meron man ng basta basta…sinasabi ko lang di pa bagay sa age nila pagusapan ang ganon… open kame sa lahat ng usapan like homosexuality, racism etc… pag naguusap kame and they are confused pa eh iniiexplain ko na may things na di pa nila maiintindihan now pero its good na they’re aware sa mga bagay bagay

tama. lalo na at mura pa mga kaisipan nila, sigurado macucurious sila sa mga bagay na ndi sila pamilyar or something trending. its a good thing kayo pa din ang tanungan nila pag may mga questions sila, bilib ako sa closeness tska on you and your partner sa pagiging approachable about sensitive topics.

 

[jayendecastro]

tama. lalo na at mura pa mga kaisipan nila, sigurado macucurious sila sa mga bagay na ndi sila pamilyar or something trending. its a good thing kayo pa din ang tanungan nila pag may mga questions sila, bilib ako sa closeness tska on you and your partner sa pagiging approachable about sensitive topics.

Hopefully mamaintain ung ganon… i also encourage them na maging sociable at maging close sa mga titos at titas nila and sa mga grandparents nila… i also try to know personally ung mga friends nila… para in case may mga bagay na di masabi skin ang kids eh i know na may mga tao around them na pd nila kausapin at pinagkakatiwalaan ko din…

 

[bloodycraft]

Hopefully mamaintain ung ganon… i also encourage them na maging sociable at maging close sa mga titos at titas nila and sa mga grandparents nila… i also try to know personally ung mga friends nila… para in case may mga bagay na di masabi skin ang kids eh i know na may mga tao around them na pd nila kausapin at pinagkakatiwalaan ko din…

super hands on naman kayo sa kanila kaya sure na mamemaintain yan. medyo magkakaron lang ng konting adjustments kasi unti unti na sila magmmature in age.

 

[jayendecastro]

super hands on naman kayo sa kanila kaya sure na mamemaintain yan. medyo magkakaron lang ng konting adjustments kasi unti unti na sila magmmature in age.

Wala nman sure thing lalo na pagdating sa parenting.. basta ready lang for anything