PH90/10 Principles by Stephen Covey
How can you react in one situation? We seldom really rely on change in our everyday life – for the most part, we decide ourselves how our day will be. That’s what writer Stephen Covey calls “the 90/10 principle,” and he shows how its works using an obvious example.
First, what is the “rule of 90/10”? The thing is, we can’t control only 10% of events in our lives. We can’t prevent a device from breaking or a flight from being delayed. However, we can control our own reaction to such things.
The 90% of events are the result of our reactions – to put it simply, what we do when we’re stressed out. So, there’s no such things like, “bahala na si batman,” because in the first place we are the one who make decision in our lives (so don’t blamed destiny if your broken-hearted or your bad luck in love).
Imagine this: You’re having a family breakfast. Your daughter has accidentally spilled your coffee on your shirt. You jump up and shout at her, then shout at your wife for putting the cup too close to the edge of the table. You rush to the bedroom to change, but when you come back, you see your crying daughter has neither finished her breakfast nor packed up ready for school.
As a result, she misses her school bus. Your wife hurries to work, and you take your daughter to school in your car. You’re running late, so you’re driving recklessly. You’re still late, and to top it off you find you’ve forgotten important papers at home, because you’re missed up and mad about what happened, you couldn’t think clearly. The beginning of your day was awful, and it’s continuing in the same way. You can’t wait for it to end. Coming home, you greet your wife and daughter. They’re both moody, and there’s tension between you, you can affect your surroundings and people around you.
Why have you had a bad day? Because you showed the wrong reaction to the situation. You spoiled the whole day for yourself and your family with your reaction. You couldn’t have done anything about the coffee, but you could have controlled your emotions.
It all could’ve been different. The coffee is spilled on your trousers, and your daughter is about to burst into tears. You say softly, “it’s okay, just be more careful next time.” You go to the bedroom, change, collect everything you need for work. Then you get back to the dining room and see your daughter waving at you from her school bus. Saying goodbye to your wife, you go to work, arriving 5 minutes early and energetically greeting all your colleagues.
Two different scenarios that started off in a similar way. It’s all about your reactions to events in your life. Of course, you can go on blaming others for your troubles and complain about everything going wrong, but has it even helped?
Remember: ‘Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you
anywhere. – Erma Bombeck.’
Ref: www.modernsoapmaking(.)com
Brightside.me
Images from: Brightside
KhioneNyx
‘Combination of cold and dark.’
Source of DeepWeb PH
How can you react in one situation? We seldom really rely on change in our everyday life – for the most part, we decide ourselves how our day will be. That’s what writer Stephen Covey calls “the 90/10 principle,” and he shows how its works using an obvious example.
First, what is the “rule of 90/10”? The thing is, we can’t control only 10% of events in our lives. We can’t prevent a device from breaking or a flight from being delayed. However, we can control our own reaction to such things.
The 90% of events are the result of our reactions – to put it simply, what we do when we’re stressed out. So, there’s no such things like, “bahala na si batman,” because in the first place we are the one who make decision in our lives (so don’t blamed destiny if your broken-hearted or your bad luck in love).
Imagine this: You’re having a family breakfast. Your daughter has accidentally spilled your coffee on your shirt. You jump up and shout at her, then shout at your wife for putting the cup too close to the edge of the table. You rush to the bedroom to change, but when you come back, you see your crying daughter has neither finished her breakfast nor packed up ready for school.
As a result, she misses her school bus. Your wife hurries to work, and you take your daughter to school in your car. You’re running late, so you’re driving recklessly. You’re still late, and to top it off you find you’ve forgotten important papers at home, because you’re missed up and mad about what happened, you couldn’t think clearly. The beginning of your day was awful, and it’s continuing in the same way. You can’t wait for it to end. Coming home, you greet your wife and daughter. They’re both moody, and there’s tension between you, you can affect your surroundings and people around you.
Why have you had a bad day? Because you showed the wrong reaction to the situation. You spoiled the whole day for yourself and your family with your reaction. You couldn’t have done anything about the coffee, but you could have controlled your emotions.
It all could’ve been different. The coffee is spilled on your trousers, and your daughter is about to burst into tears. You say softly, “it’s okay, just be more careful next time.” You go to the bedroom, change, collect everything you need for work. Then you get back to the dining room and see your daughter waving at you from her school bus. Saying goodbye to your wife, you go to work, arriving 5 minutes early and energetically greeting all your colleagues.
Two different scenarios that started off in a similar way. It’s all about your reactions to events in your life. Of course, you can go on blaming others for your troubles and complain about everything going wrong, but has it even helped?
Remember: ‘Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you
anywhere. – Erma Bombeck.’
Ref: www.modernsoapmaking(.)com
Brightside.me
Images from: Brightside
KhioneNyx
‘Combination of cold and dark.’
Source of DeepWeb PH
