PHjodyslucky
Eternal Poster
Relationships are tricky especially because as human beings, we tend to complicate a lot of things. Every kind of relationship comes with its own brand of trouble, whether itâs doing something your partner doesnât like or realizing that youâre only in the relationship because youâre used to it and youâd be out of your comfort zone without it.
Have you ever been in a relationship where youâre forced to compromise and you just canât leave because youâre all too familiar with the set up? It sounds like youâre settling with somebody who might not even be worth all of it.
So the question is, how do you know if youâre just settling for a relationship? How do you know when to get out? Simple. By avoiding and knowing these 8 signs:
1. When he spends too much time being a slave to gadgets
When youâre on a date or maybe just hanging out yet one of you pay more attention to their phone than on the other, itâs a clear sign that something is wrong or, to put it plainly, theyâre not interested in the relationship anymore. Donât settle for a person who doesnât give you the kind of attention you need!
2. Partner is guarding every move you make
Who wants to be kept under constant scrutiny often under lock and key? Your every move is watched, and he labels every guy you talk to as a threat. We get that he thinks heâs doing it because he loves you but the definition of being âselfishâ proves his intentions otherwise. And this works vice versa, too.
3. Heâs digging up past mistakes to keep score
Couples usually fall into this mistake under the impression that theyâre doing it because theyâre driven by love. If you justify something you are about to do or just did by digging up your partnerâs history of mistakes and using it against them, then you deserve a medal for holding grudges! Love doesnât keep tabs, remember that.
4. When youâre being eaten alive by doubt
Nobody likes a person who wonât believe whatever you tell them. For doubters, thereâs always an explanation and an ulterior motive for every action their partner makes. But if you love someone you would believe them and give them the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise. If their initial reaction to everything you say and do is to doubt, then maybe you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
5. When you start complaining to your friends about your partner
Itâs never okay to air your dirty laundry or to complain excessively but whatâs even worse is complaining about your partner and how miserable you are with them. Youâre keeping all the anger to yourself because chances are you donât even want to talk about it with the person involved, and what does that tell you? You lack proper communication.
6. When you keep secrets from each other
No matter how hard it would hurt or upset the other person, telling the truth will always be the right path to take. Come on, how many movies have you seen where they kept secrets from each other and ended up destroying the relationship? Communication will always be the key to a healthy relationship.
7. When youâre expecting your partner to be perfect in every way or vice versa
No person will ever be perfect. He may look perfect but underneath those dazzling eyes and heart melting smile, thereâs still something youâll find you wonât quite like. But thatâs no excuse to go all âMy friendâs boyfriend always picks her up after work, why canât you?â or âMy dad never forgets to buy my mom flowers every anniversary and yet here you are forgetting itâs our anniversary!â or even worse âMy ex is better than you.â
Girl, heâs an imperfect human being. Donât make him into a mix of everything youâd want your dream guy to be.
8. When youâre just settling with the relationship because itâs familiar
Comfort zones, thereâs a reason we call them that. Theyâre very comfortable when we stay in that area but theyâre also fences that keep us from experiencing things that we might discover we quite prefer better. All the years wonât go to waste if you get out of that relationship, on the contrary, if you settle, you might find that youâre robbed of your happiness in the future.
Have you ever been in a relationship where youâre forced to compromise and you just canât leave because youâre all too familiar with the set up? It sounds like youâre settling with somebody who might not even be worth all of it.
So the question is, how do you know if youâre just settling for a relationship? How do you know when to get out? Simple. By avoiding and knowing these 8 signs:
1. When he spends too much time being a slave to gadgets
When youâre on a date or maybe just hanging out yet one of you pay more attention to their phone than on the other, itâs a clear sign that something is wrong or, to put it plainly, theyâre not interested in the relationship anymore. Donât settle for a person who doesnât give you the kind of attention you need!
2. Partner is guarding every move you make
Who wants to be kept under constant scrutiny often under lock and key? Your every move is watched, and he labels every guy you talk to as a threat. We get that he thinks heâs doing it because he loves you but the definition of being âselfishâ proves his intentions otherwise. And this works vice versa, too.
3. Heâs digging up past mistakes to keep score
Couples usually fall into this mistake under the impression that theyâre doing it because theyâre driven by love. If you justify something you are about to do or just did by digging up your partnerâs history of mistakes and using it against them, then you deserve a medal for holding grudges! Love doesnât keep tabs, remember that.
4. When youâre being eaten alive by doubt
Nobody likes a person who wonât believe whatever you tell them. For doubters, thereâs always an explanation and an ulterior motive for every action their partner makes. But if you love someone you would believe them and give them the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise. If their initial reaction to everything you say and do is to doubt, then maybe you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
5. When you start complaining to your friends about your partner
Itâs never okay to air your dirty laundry or to complain excessively but whatâs even worse is complaining about your partner and how miserable you are with them. Youâre keeping all the anger to yourself because chances are you donât even want to talk about it with the person involved, and what does that tell you? You lack proper communication.
6. When you keep secrets from each other
No matter how hard it would hurt or upset the other person, telling the truth will always be the right path to take. Come on, how many movies have you seen where they kept secrets from each other and ended up destroying the relationship? Communication will always be the key to a healthy relationship.
7. When youâre expecting your partner to be perfect in every way or vice versa
No person will ever be perfect. He may look perfect but underneath those dazzling eyes and heart melting smile, thereâs still something youâll find you wonât quite like. But thatâs no excuse to go all âMy friendâs boyfriend always picks her up after work, why canât you?â or âMy dad never forgets to buy my mom flowers every anniversary and yet here you are forgetting itâs our anniversary!â or even worse âMy ex is better than you.â
Girl, heâs an imperfect human being. Donât make him into a mix of everything youâd want your dream guy to be.
8. When youâre just settling with the relationship because itâs familiar
Comfort zones, thereâs a reason we call them that. Theyâre very comfortable when we stay in that area but theyâre also fences that keep us from experiencing things that we might discover we quite prefer better. All the years wonât go to waste if you get out of that relationship, on the contrary, if you settle, you might find that youâre robbed of your happiness in the future.
Love is all that matters anyway. Naks.