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A supportive romantic partner doesn't only comfort you when something goes wrong.
Partners can also influence who each other becomes.
Relationship researchers use the term Michelangelo phenomenon for a process in which a partner supports qualities and goals connected with someone's ideal self.
When a partner affirms those aspirations, the person may gradually move closer toward the version of themselves they want to become.
This has been associated with relationship and personal well-being.
A good relationship therefore isn't necessarily one where your partner wants you to remain exactly the same forever.
Sometimes love involves helping someone become more like the person they want to be.
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