
Not every betrayed woman was suspicious beforehand.
Affairs can be revealed through unexpected messages, another person's disclosure, accidentally encountered evidence, or the cheating partner's confession.
Research examining affair discovery shows that infidelity becomes known through several different pathways.
This matters because hindsight can make warning signs seem obvious afterward.
A woman may look back and think she “should have known,” even though ambiguous behavior didn't necessarily provide enough information at the time.
Trusting your partner isn't the same thing as failing to investigate them.
Sometimes betrayal is shocking precisely because the person had no reason to believe she needed to search for it.
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