💕 Dating/Love Am I a bad person? Playing cupid seriously backfired.

[deadpoetKimbs]

Badly need advice.


So, I’m in a healthy, committed relationship… but it’s long-distance. There’s this girl at work I’ve gotten pretty close to. We like the same stuff, we vibe easily, and she kinda reminds me of my first girlfriend. She’s not exactly the prettiest girl around, but for some reason, I’ve got this soft spot for her that I can’t really explain.


She’s had a lot going on with her ex (who’s also a woman. She’s bi, by the way). Trigger warning: she once tried to end her life by overdosing. I did what I could to help (gave her advice, bought her food, tried to just be there for her). But I also knew deep down that I couldn’t save her.


Anyway, at some point I decided to play cupid. I tried to set her up with one of my friends, thinking it might help her move on from her ex. But then I found out she’s still in contact with her ex, and they’re acting all lovey-dovey again. The worst part? It’s so obvious her ex is just using her.


Now I feel like crap. I don’t want my friend to get hurt, but I also don’t know how to handle how I feel. I treat this girl like a sister. Like the sister I never had, but sometimes I catch myself wishing she was my partner (in a romantic way instead) and that just messes with my head. I really love my girlfriend, but I really just want to take care of this girl.


I don’t know what to make of all this. I’m not trying to cheat or anything, but I feel like I crossed some weird emotional line somewhere along the way.

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Naranasan ko na yan. Parehas na parehas.

Short answer: this is infatuation. Pero the good news is in control ka sa emotion mo at hindi ka katulad ng marami na impulsive sa mga ganitong bagay.

This feeling will go away. Lalo na kung paglayuin na kayo ng pagkakataon at mabawasan na ang contact. Syempre ibang storya kung actively ka makikipag connect sakanya.

It is not wrong to pursue her though. But keep in mind, you have to let go of your current partner. If you think it is worth it, then go ahead.

 

[deadpoetKimbs]

Naranasan ko na yan. Parehas na parehas.

Short answer: this is infatuation. Pero the good news is in control ka sa emotion mo at hindi ka katulad ng marami na impulsive sa mga ganitong bagay.

This feeling will go away. Lalo na kung paglayuin na kayo ng pagkakataon at mabawasan na ang contact. Syempre ibang storya kung actively ka makikipag connect sakanya.

It is not wrong to pursue her though. But keep in mind, you have to let go of your current partner. If you think it is worth it, then go ahead.

Nahhhh, I won't pursue her or anything and set boundaries. I think you're right that this is all just infatuation. I just like the feeling of being needed by someone and mistook it for love. Thank you.