💕 Dating/Love Pwedeng mag vent guys diko din kasi alam kanino ko ilalabas hinanakit ko sa buhay

[Raybinnn]

Na-meet ko siya around 2 years ago. Nag-stay siya sa bahay ng mga pinsan ko—hindi kami related, pero malapit lang ang bahay namin sa isa’t isa. One day, she messaged me first. Di ko alam kung bakit, siguro dahil lagi niya akong nakikita, or maybe out of curiosity lang. Pero that one chat turned into many... hanggang sa hindi na kami tumitigil mag-usap.

Eventually, something developed between us. I asked her one time kung gusto niya na mag-commit, pero ang sabi niya, “Magulo pa ako.” I understood—hindi ako bulag sa sitwasyon niya. I could see na messed up talaga buhay niya. So I chose to be patient. Inintindi ko siya, kahit mahirap.

But kahit wala kaming official label, we acted like there was something. We flirted. We shared things, did things na para lang sa isang relasyon. Until one day, I started noticing changes. Her vibe, her words, even her kinks—nag-iiba. One time, she jokingly said, “Sa iba naman.” I didn’t know how to respond. It hurt, deeply. Para akong binuhusan ng malamig na tubig.

Then came the local fiesta. May perya, may basketball events—normal sa amin. I noticed a guy always behind her, like he was waiting. Sa una I brushed it off, pero sunod-sunod na. I asked her directly, pero she kept saying, “Wala ‘yan.”

Hindi ako nakuntento. I started testing things—parang naging obsessed na rin siguro ako. I offered to make out, and she said yes. Crazy, right? I was confused. I thought, “If may iba na, bakit pumapayag pa siya?” Pero weeks later, confirmed ko rin. Meron nga. May something talaga sa kanila.

My heart was full of hatred. Parang nag-blackout ako emotionally. I did things I now regret. Nasabi ko sa lalake yung mga private moments namin—things na sana sa amin lang. Mali ko ‘yun. I admit it. But in that moment, I was broken and blinded by pain.

What hurts the most is… I gave so much. Time, effort, understanding. I tried to make her life better. I stood by her kahit alam kong magulo siya. And in the end, I wasn’t even someone worth choosing.

Masakit. Hindi ko siya kayang murahin. Hindi ko siya kayang tuluyang kamuhian. Kasi sa totoo lang… I’m still blaming myself for being "just like this."

Pero alam ko, someday, I have to let go. Hindi ko deserve ‘to. I deserve peace, I deserve clarity. And I’m learning that the pain I carry doesn’t mean I was weak. It means I loved—truly and deeply.

It's been almost 2 years since then, and I just found out now that they're together.

 

[leobenavidez17]

ayos lang na masaktan, no regrets dapat kasi you give your best. be proud of yourself.

 

[Raybinnn]

sakit lang kasi ang bata ko pa para makaramdam ng ganito

 

[leobenavidez17]

its not the end of the world, learn from this. sa susunod, tatawanan mo n lng yan.

 

[Raybinnn]

its not the end of the world, learn from this. sa susunod, tatawanan mo n lng yan.

Sabi nila kailangan mong makaranas ng pinaka nakaka traumatize na bagay para ma obtain yung pagiging nonchalant, hindi lang basta term na pam pa cool yon haha para sakin escape yon sa mga bagay bagay para hindi ka mag fall apart

 

[Kaplok Kaplok]

Time will come you will look back, maiisip mo "ah, kaya pala." Some people are just there to fulfill something for us. Wag mo panghinayang ung effort mo, ung feelings mo, because that is what makes it something to cherish. Be genuinely happy for her for now.
Alam ko mahirap yan dahil lahat nmn tayo may selfish impulse to demand what we deserve. We do this despite demanding it from the wrong person, then we justify it by negotiating for less. Diba parang tang@?

For now, i-assess mo lng kung ano ung mga bagay na gusto mo sa mga ginawa mo at ayaw, and use it as a lesson. Wag masyado magpadala sa emosyon at sakit. Kung magmumuk-mok ka lang, that is the only time every pain was for nothing. Kaya you have to move on.

 

[C E S S]

It’s alright she’s with another guy. Don’t ever think you lost her. Red flags don’t turn green in another relationship.

 

[acer005]

Grabe ang pinagdaanan mo. Nasaktan ka, nagtiis, umasa, at umintindi—pero sa huli, naiwan ka rin. Hindi mo kasalanan ‘yon. Nagmahal ka ng totoo, at ‘di ka dapat sisihin para sa pagmamahal na binigay mo.

Ang mahalaga ngayon, alam mo na: you deserve peace, not confusion. Hindi ka mahina—malakas ka kasi pinili mong magmahal, kahit masakit.

 

[sioshooo]

Hardest thing to accept is the pain na kailangan natin lods for us to move on and realize na we are not meant for that person, and someday and somehow there is that person na me meet mo na for each other. Acceptance is not as easy as drinking a glass of cold water; rather, it's like drinking a glass of boiling water immediately.

 

[emnsta]

Based sa kwento mo may something na Red Flag sya pero hinayaan mo lang , Ganun talaga siguro kapag mahal mo ang isang tao ay kahit may nakikita o nararamdaman ka ng something ay di natin eto papansinin, tinutuloy parin tayo kaya hanggang sa huli tayo yung kawawa , na experienced ko na rin yung ganito ,hinayaan ko lang kahit may alam na ako,eh kasi napamahal na, nasa huli talaga ang pagsisi kaya may regrets talaga ako ,napaisip ako kung bat ko hinayaan na umabot pa sa ganitong sitwasyon.