PHGoldenPhoenix
Eternal Poster
Break up, saying goodbye to the person you were once close with and deeply in love with.
We have all been there and we all know how that feels.
We have all had our hearts broken. When it happens to you personally, itās devastating and while people can relate, they arenāt in that moment. The pain is there and itās real for you. Sometimes it feels like youāre completely helpless and youāll never get past the suffering.
The important things to remember are that there are people there for you and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there. You have to understand that getting over a break up seems unachieveable but itās just about the matter of time. Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
Steps You Can Follow To Heal Your Break Up.
Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
1. Cut all the contact.
Why?
This honestly is rule #1 in a break up. Keep your distance and donāt text, email, meet in person or call. You should probably take them off your Facebook or any other social networks while youāre at it. This doesnāt have to be permanent but while youāre vulnerable to any mean or, in contrast ā loving words, itās best not to have their voice in your head. The risk of getting back into a relationship when it wasnāt working is high. You may also end up in a war of words causing further hurt and anxiety. Cutting the ties for good when itās over puts you on a faster path to healing.
Try this:
Why?
Cry, sob your eyes out, scream and yell. As long as it doesnāt hurt yourself or anybody else, find ways to release and let go of the pain you may be feeling. When people kindly and humorously tell you all break ups are hard, itās because they are. Donāt take this part of the healing process away from yourself or it will grow and fester within you. You will naturally feel some negative emotions no matter how easy or hard your break up was. Honor your feelings and know that they will get less intense the more that you let them out. It helps you move past them!
Try this:
3. Accept the fact that itās over, at least for now.
Why?
Coping with the end of a relationship is a little bit like a 12 step program. You will reach acceptance far sooner by staying away from that person. This strategy relies on time more than anything else but there are ways to move it along. Try to look at the situation objectively, even if you didnāt agree to the breakup. Donāt over-analyze what could have been different. There are infinite should-haves and could-haves, and thinking about them will cause you to spiral. In the moments you were in the relationship, thatās when your actions mattered. They donāt anymore. Your mission now is to get to the place where you arenāt battling with yourself about the way things are. Do this with compassion and donāt beat yourself up. It may take some time for the heart to catch up with reality but in the meantime, accept that the relationship has ended.
Try this:
Why?
Chances are, you lost a piece of yourself in the relationship. Now is your chance to find you again and this can be fun. This is one of the positives to your break up, so embrace it! Maybe you let go of a hobby you used to love to do or stopped taking scented baths. You can eat salad and granola bars for dinner if you feel like it. There are a lot of personal things that made you special, you just have to find them again and get the feeling back. Alternatively, you may have grown in the relationship which means you can discover new things about yourself.
Try this:
5. Explore and Have Fun
Why?
When youāre ready to authentically have fun again, get your girlfriends together and go out. Go dancing, go shopping, go on a roller coaster. Do something that makes you smile, laugh and feel good inside. I once went to a haunted house where things jumped out at me and scared me half to death. This was so therapeutic. Be spontaneous and silly. Enjoy your life.
Try this:
Why?
As you look to move forward in your life, donāt deny or grasp on to your exās memory. They may pop into your mind as a memory of a moment where you were happy (or not). Acknowledge it, smile or cry. Let the memory go instead of clinging onto it. Donāt intentionally look at pictures or look at old texts you got from him. Itās now about you and your present moments. Your ex is a part of the person you are today and you can be grateful to them for that, but the chapter with them is gone.
Try this:
Why?
Donāt bounce into another relationship too quickly, thinking that youāre okay. It is probably the best quick fix out there but at the same time, you never really get over your ex. In the long run you havenāt actually gotten over your ex and when your next relationship ends, youāll have two exās to get over. Youāre just prolonging the inevitable pain.
Try this:
Why?
Itās good to slowly and gradually develop a mindful life so your mind can stay peaceful and calm no matter what life throws you. Being mindful means you listen to yourself more and acknowledge your neemost importantly, understand what can make you happy.
Try this:
Here we have an infographic on how to start planning a mindful life. This beginner routine focus on living simple and slow and how to connect your mind and body. I suggest that you can add 10 minutes of meditation before bed just to clear out all the unncessary feelings and thoughts so you can get a better sleep!
We have all been there and we all know how that feels.
We have all had our hearts broken. When it happens to you personally, itās devastating and while people can relate, they arenāt in that moment. The pain is there and itās real for you. Sometimes it feels like youāre completely helpless and youāll never get past the suffering.
The important things to remember are that there are people there for you and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there. You have to understand that getting over a break up seems unachieveable but itās just about the matter of time. Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
Steps You Can Follow To Heal Your Break Up.
Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
1. Cut all the contact.
Why?
This honestly is rule #1 in a break up. Keep your distance and donāt text, email, meet in person or call. You should probably take them off your Facebook or any other social networks while youāre at it. This doesnāt have to be permanent but while youāre vulnerable to any mean or, in contrast ā loving words, itās best not to have their voice in your head. The risk of getting back into a relationship when it wasnāt working is high. You may also end up in a war of words causing further hurt and anxiety. Cutting the ties for good when itās over puts you on a faster path to healing.
Try this:
- Set up an āEmergency Contact Listā that contains all your BFFsā phone number, when you are tempted to call your Ex and beg for a return relationship, call and talk to your friends instead.
- Pick an activity that you can do to replace the desire of texting/calling/stalking your ex, something handy you can do right away like watch your favorite Netflix show or walk around your favoruite local stores.
Why?
Cry, sob your eyes out, scream and yell. As long as it doesnāt hurt yourself or anybody else, find ways to release and let go of the pain you may be feeling. When people kindly and humorously tell you all break ups are hard, itās because they are. Donāt take this part of the healing process away from yourself or it will grow and fester within you. You will naturally feel some negative emotions no matter how easy or hard your break up was. Honor your feelings and know that they will get less intense the more that you let them out. It helps you move past them!
Try this:
- Listen to sad songs. Research shows that listening to sad songs actually can make us happier. Listening to sad songs can regulate negative emotion and mood as well as consolation. Here we have a playlist consist of sad song for you to listen to if you need a good cry. Find a quiet place, let your emotions run, and give yourself some relief.
3. Accept the fact that itās over, at least for now.
Why?
Coping with the end of a relationship is a little bit like a 12 step program. You will reach acceptance far sooner by staying away from that person. This strategy relies on time more than anything else but there are ways to move it along. Try to look at the situation objectively, even if you didnāt agree to the breakup. Donāt over-analyze what could have been different. There are infinite should-haves and could-haves, and thinking about them will cause you to spiral. In the moments you were in the relationship, thatās when your actions mattered. They donāt anymore. Your mission now is to get to the place where you arenāt battling with yourself about the way things are. Do this with compassion and donāt beat yourself up. It may take some time for the heart to catch up with reality but in the meantime, accept that the relationship has ended.
Try this:
- Tell yourself itās over now and itās time to move on and start a new chapter of your life.
- Tidy up all the things that would recall your memories with your ex. Make things out of sight, out of mind.
- Talk to your family and friends because sometimes itās hard to see a bigger picture when you are stuck in the situation.
Why?
Chances are, you lost a piece of yourself in the relationship. Now is your chance to find you again and this can be fun. This is one of the positives to your break up, so embrace it! Maybe you let go of a hobby you used to love to do or stopped taking scented baths. You can eat salad and granola bars for dinner if you feel like it. There are a lot of personal things that made you special, you just have to find them again and get the feeling back. Alternatively, you may have grown in the relationship which means you can discover new things about yourself.
Try this:
- Have a mindful conversation with yourself and do an in-depth discovery into your inner-self.Asking reflective questions can help you find out more about yourself and what you truly want to be.
- Possible questions you can ask:
1. If ālove myself moreā has the top priority in my life, will I still do what I am doing now?
2. What do I appreciate myself the most?
3. How was my life before the relationship?
4. What do I want to achieve in my life and how should I start?
5. What is the most important thing I should improve?
5. Explore and Have Fun
Why?
When youāre ready to authentically have fun again, get your girlfriends together and go out. Go dancing, go shopping, go on a roller coaster. Do something that makes you smile, laugh and feel good inside. I once went to a haunted house where things jumped out at me and scared me half to death. This was so therapeutic. Be spontaneous and silly. Enjoy your life.
Try this:
- Something new and exciting that you always wanted to do alone
- Spend quality time with your friends and family
- Reconnect with long-lost friends
- Explore and develop new habits, learning a new language is a good option!
Why?
As you look to move forward in your life, donāt deny or grasp on to your exās memory. They may pop into your mind as a memory of a moment where you were happy (or not). Acknowledge it, smile or cry. Let the memory go instead of clinging onto it. Donāt intentionally look at pictures or look at old texts you got from him. Itās now about you and your present moments. Your ex is a part of the person you are today and you can be grateful to them for that, but the chapter with them is gone.
Try this:
- As mentioned before, CLEAR OUT all the things that stimulate memories
- Donāt try to escape from your feelings. Face them. Write down how you feel to help you declutter your mind. The more you write, the more you can identify what trigger your emotion and you can get better prepare for them.
Why?
Donāt bounce into another relationship too quickly, thinking that youāre okay. It is probably the best quick fix out there but at the same time, you never really get over your ex. In the long run you havenāt actually gotten over your ex and when your next relationship ends, youāll have two exās to get over. Youāre just prolonging the inevitable pain.
Try this:
- Ask yourself what kind of relationship you want. Understanding your need before entering a relationship is key because this can save you from another heart break.
- Explore and meet new people when you are ready. Make sure you talk to them, take your time to get to know them before taking the move to start a new relationship.
Why?
Itās good to slowly and gradually develop a mindful life so your mind can stay peaceful and calm no matter what life throws you. Being mindful means you listen to yourself more and acknowledge your neemost importantly, understand what can make you happy.
Try this:
Here we have an infographic on how to start planning a mindful life. This beginner routine focus on living simple and slow and how to connect your mind and body. I suggest that you can add 10 minutes of meditation before bed just to clear out all the unncessary feelings and thoughts so you can get a better sleep!
