
Researchers distinguish between destiny beliefs and growth beliefs about relationships.
A strong destiny mindset treats compatibility as something that should naturally exist: either two people are right for each other or they aren't.
A growth mindset places more emphasis on relationships developing through effort and overcoming difficulties.
These beliefs can influence how people interpret conflict and imperfections.
A disagreement can therefore mean “we're incompatible” to one person and “this is something we need to work through” to another.
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