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Appearing selective can sometimes increase perceived desirability under particular circumstances.
But appearing completely uninterested creates a different problem: the other person may simply believe you aren't interested.
Research suggests uncertainty and selectivity can affect attraction, but deliberately withholding warmth isn't a reliable universal strategy.
People also differ greatly in how they respond to ambiguous signals.
Making someone constantly guess whether you like them can produce confusion instead of chemistry.
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