💕 Dating/Love How to Avoid & Move On from Retroactive Jealousy ???

[Life_Exists_Beyond_Death]

im a person struggles with painful memories of the past, feeling as i reliving the heartbreak over and over again. No matter how much i try to move on, certain places, songs, or moments bring back the hurt. Yung tipong kahit wala kang "karapatan" nun, pakiramdam mo parang dapat ikaw ang nauna, o ikaw ang pinili. Sobrang hirap nga kapag parang ikaw lang yung nakakulong sa sakit, habang ang iba ay parang tuloy lang sa buhay nila.

Please respect me po emotional po akong person and i want your serious advice sirs maam

 

[acer005]

1. Acknowledge Feelings: It's okay to feel hurt—recognize and allow your emotions.
2. Identify Triggers: Be aware of places, songs, or moments that bring back pain.
3. Focus on the Present: Appreciate your current relationship or personal growth.
4. Redirect Energy: Pursue hobbies, goals, or self-care to shift your focus.
5. Open Up: Share feelings with trusted friends or a therapist.
6. Practice Forgiveness: Let go, not for them, but to free yourself.

Take it step by step—healing takes time.

 

[nitro7]

create new happy memories.
it may seem daunting for someone in your current emotional squalor, but there's really no better way, perhaps no other way.

 

[Solofly]

You have a right naman to leave the relationship kung di kayo compatible sa isat isa. Siguro ang dealbreaker sa ganun yung treatment nya sayo mas worst kesa sa past nya.
Ako siguro pag nalaman ko yung babae nagiging intimate sa first date sa past nya pero ako pinahintay pa ng isang taon hihiwalayan ko agad agad no matter how good she looks or gaano ka solid ang kanyang personality.

 

[Life_Exists_Beyond_Death]

1. Acknowledge Feelings: It's okay to feel hurt—recognize and allow your emotions.
2. Identify Triggers: Be aware of places, songs, or moments that bring back pain.
3. Focus on the Present: Appreciate your current relationship or personal growth.
4. Redirect Energy: Pursue hobbies, goals, or self-care to shift your focus.
5. Open Up: Share feelings with trusted friends or a therapist.
6. Practice Forgiveness: Let go, not for them, but to free yourself.

Take it step by step—healing takes time.

create new happy memories.
it may seem daunting for someone in your current emotional squalor, but there's really no better way, perhaps no other way.

You have a right naman to leave the relationship kung di kayo compatible sa isat isa. Siguro ang dealbreaker sa ganun yung treatment nya sayo mas worst kesa sa past nya.
Ako siguro pag nalaman ko yung babae nagiging intimate sa first date sa past nya pero ako pinahintay pa ng isang taon hihiwalayan ko agad agad no matter how good she looks or gaano ka solid ang kanyang personality.

alam niypo yung tipong nag ppractice ko nmn na pag nasa ganung thinking nako is binabaling kopo tlaga na mag focus samin sa preset and she gave me nmn assurance that she already done with that past before pa maging kami and the wrong na siguro is ako mga sir idk wy i feel this way what or why im thinking retro hindi kopo tlaga maipaliwaag na nag seselos or nag tatampo minsan first gf kopo kasi sya and i have thread na here before

honeslty hirap po ako mag move on sa ganon while pag nakakalimutan kona tas biglang may parang yung tipong pag may nasingit lang ng nakaraan nya kahit kaunti lang parang isang tinggin or rinig ko pa lang parang alam ko na lahat ng nangyare on that situation ang flow kasi ng isip at lawak ng pang unawa sadyang yung sarili ko diko maintindhian

tama nmn po sya while we talk about it na baka ang gusto ko is gusto ko ako ung nauna which is "hindi"" and parang ganun po na fefeel ko na hindi

ang gusto ko lang is mag kaintidhan kami na pagusapin nakraan nya is wag na ba masingit ng kahit mismong katiting
thnaks for advice mga sir i follw it up po excetp kay solofly hehe love na love ko yun e sadynag yun po ang hindi ko lang maalis sasarili ko

 

[acer005]

Bro, gets ko ang struggle mo. Natural lang mag-feel ng ganito lalo na sa first relationship—kahit alam mo na naayos na yung past, yung insecurities, paminsan, bumabalik pa rin. Minsan, parang automatic yung reaction mo kapag may kahit konting trigger na nagpaalala sa'yo ng nakaraan. Pero, importante na mag-open up kayo nang maayos at honest tungkol sa nararamdaman mo. Subukan mong ipaliwanag kung bakit mo na-feel ‘yung ganitong reaction at pakinggan din ang perspective niya. Sa ganitong paraan, pareho kayong magkakaroon ng mas malalim na understanding sa isa’t isa. Huwag mo rin kalimutang alagaan ang sarili mo at mag-focus sa mga positibong moments ninyo. Normal lang yan at unti-unti lang, masosolusyonan din ninyo ito.

 

[Vheryo]

Gawin mo mag create ka ng hobby na talagang magiging busy ka like gym or running. Ganyan kasi ginawa ko effective naman coming from a 9yrs relationship

 

[HowSoonIsNow]

hiwalayan mo na lang kesa mag dusa sya sayo kaka emo mo brad. then mag gf ka ng iba tapos balikan mo yung sarili mo para maintindihan mo yung pakiramdam na once nag torment sayo bilang pangalawang naging bf ng dati mong gf. sa ganyang paraan mawawala na yung overthinking mo dahil alam mo na yung sitwasyon ng taong nagkaroon ng ex.

 

[nitro7]

alam niypo yung tipong nag ppractice ko nmn na pag nasa ganung thinking nako is binabaling kopo tlaga na mag focus samin sa preset and she gave me nmn assurance that she already done with that past before pa maging kami and the wrong na siguro is ako mga sir idk wy i feel this way what or why im thinking retro hindi kopo tlaga maipaliwaag na nag seselos or nag tatampo minsan first gf kopo kasi sya and i have thread na here before

honeslty hirap po ako mag move on sa ganon while pag nakakalimutan kona tas biglang may parang yung tipong pag may nasingit lang ng nakaraan nya kahit kaunti lang parang isang tinggin or rinig ko pa lang parang alam ko na lahat ng nangyare on that situation ang flow kasi ng isip at lawak ng pang unawa sadyang yung sarili ko diko maintindhian

tama nmn po sya while we talk about it na baka ang gusto ko is gusto ko ako ung nauna which is "hindi"" and parang ganun po na fefeel ko na hindi

ang gusto ko lang is mag kaintidhan kami na pagusapin nakraan nya is wag na ba masingit ng kahit mismong katiting
thnaks for advice mga sir i follw it up po excetp kay solofly hehe love na love ko yun e sadynag yun po ang hindi ko lang maalis sasarili ko

paano mo ba nalaman ang nakaraan n'ya? alam mo ba bago naging kayo? inilihim ba n'ya at nalaman mo sa ibang paraan?

walang one-click solution dito. dahil ganito ang mentalidad mo, this will always cross your mind. you will likely have to consciously deal with this every single time it rears its ugly head.

ngayon, ang tanong para sa sarili mo - is she and/or this relationship worth the effort?

kung oo, you know what you have to deal with. kung hindi worth it, o kung hindi mo kaya ang commitment, tapusin mo na. move on. first gf. meron pang iba. kung di mo talaga kaya, unfair sa iyo at unfair sa kanya. di na n'ya maibabalik ang pinagdaanan n'ya. wala na s'yang magagawa dun. mabuti nang ngayon kesa kung magkatuluyan at magka-anak kayo, tapos binabagabag ka pa rin nito.

on the other hand, isipin mo rin na si Riley Reid ay nakapag-asawa. Si Allie Haze ay may matinong relasyon. so pwedeng tanggapin at ibaon sa kahapon ang mga nakaraang karanasan.

 

[Labliiin]

same situation