PH'Siguro naman, lahat tayo nakaranas na mainsulto'
Isang Writer host na si Gitri San Diego may paliwanag sa isyu ni Jude Bacalso.
"I once ate at a 24-hour restaurant with a friend and another friend who’s a rather tall transwoman. The server took one look at her and called her “Sir”. I saw that she was so visibly upset that she couldn’t even order. So as her friend, I stood up for her and told the server “Ang ganda ganda ng bihis niya tapos tatawagin mo lang Sir?” The waiter quickly apologized and my friend said “Thank you.”" Pahayag niya.
"Naranasan ko na rin ma-misgender and if I could only tell you how hurtful it feels, I would. Mararamdaman mo lang kung ikaw mismo ang nakaranas." Pagpapatuloy niya.
"Two things.
1. Not everyone is informed about proper pronoun usage. But if you work in the service industry, this is something you must learn. You are there to cater to all kinds of customers. Here’s a tip: the way people present themselves is generally how they want to be addressed. So if someone is presenting as a woman, call them “Maam” or “Miss”. And if you’re not sure, you can always ask. We all now live in a time where pronouns matter. It equates to a person’s validity. So if someone comes to your establishment, it’s just right that you value them. It’s politeness. The gas station I regularly go to employs two transmen and their faces literally light up when I call them “Sir” or “Kuya”. Parte na ito ng buhay natin kaya sana, mas maging aware tayo sa pakikitungo sa iba’t ibang pagkatao." dagdag pa niya.
"2. It’s very difficult to react with kindness when you’ve just felt insulted. Siguro naman, lahat tayo nakaranas na mainsulto. Lahat naman nagkakamali. Having said that, feeling insulted doesn’t give you permission to be cruel. If you have been, then you must apologize for your mistake. These days, it’s so easy to be a target of people who don’t even know you, to be defined by a single viral moment, so we must be more compassionate because like you, everyone is human. Hindi mo alam kung kailan ka susunod na magkakamali kaya iwasan ang maging mapanghusga. And it’s never okay to make fun of someone’s appearance lalo na kung panget ka rin naman." Aniya pa.
#JudeBacalso
Photos: Gitri San Dieg
o, Jude Bacalso
Isang Writer host na si Gitri San Diego may paliwanag sa isyu ni Jude Bacalso.
"I once ate at a 24-hour restaurant with a friend and another friend who’s a rather tall transwoman. The server took one look at her and called her “Sir”. I saw that she was so visibly upset that she couldn’t even order. So as her friend, I stood up for her and told the server “Ang ganda ganda ng bihis niya tapos tatawagin mo lang Sir?” The waiter quickly apologized and my friend said “Thank you.”" Pahayag niya.
"Naranasan ko na rin ma-misgender and if I could only tell you how hurtful it feels, I would. Mararamdaman mo lang kung ikaw mismo ang nakaranas." Pagpapatuloy niya.
"Two things.
1. Not everyone is informed about proper pronoun usage. But if you work in the service industry, this is something you must learn. You are there to cater to all kinds of customers. Here’s a tip: the way people present themselves is generally how they want to be addressed. So if someone is presenting as a woman, call them “Maam” or “Miss”. And if you’re not sure, you can always ask. We all now live in a time where pronouns matter. It equates to a person’s validity. So if someone comes to your establishment, it’s just right that you value them. It’s politeness. The gas station I regularly go to employs two transmen and their faces literally light up when I call them “Sir” or “Kuya”. Parte na ito ng buhay natin kaya sana, mas maging aware tayo sa pakikitungo sa iba’t ibang pagkatao." dagdag pa niya.
"2. It’s very difficult to react with kindness when you’ve just felt insulted. Siguro naman, lahat tayo nakaranas na mainsulto. Lahat naman nagkakamali. Having said that, feeling insulted doesn’t give you permission to be cruel. If you have been, then you must apologize for your mistake. These days, it’s so easy to be a target of people who don’t even know you, to be defined by a single viral moment, so we must be more compassionate because like you, everyone is human. Hindi mo alam kung kailan ka susunod na magkakamali kaya iwasan ang maging mapanghusga. And it’s never okay to make fun of someone’s appearance lalo na kung panget ka rin naman." Aniya pa.
#JudeBacalso
Photos: Gitri San Dieg