Honestly, I would tackle this pragmatically and avoid to get involve the moment I verified unfinished closure is confirmed to avoid emotional burden. This may be hard to swallow, but your lady is right to distance herself from you in order to avoid unnecessary confrontations and complicate things. I'm afraid that letting your lady to resolve her personal conflicts is the best thing to do right now. Keep your communications open for some emotional reassurances. There may be risk of losing her, but that's life. Sometimes it works in your favor, sometimes it doesn't.